Hello and welcome to the first in the series of Alpha Male Interviews! In each episode, I will be interviewing an Alpha Male on the latest products, mindsets, techniques and so on, in other words, I’ll be racking their brains to help you improve your game and success with women the fastest. Some of the interviews will be text, some will be audio and if I ever fix my hair, some may even be in video!
Alpha Male #1: JT Styles
Where is he normally? Get Girls Not Game
Why should I care about what he has to say? JT doesn’t just rehash the same, tired advice that you can find on many blogs – he provides cutting edge, fresh and instantly workable advice. Better yet, he looks at all areas of dating, from what to say, how to improve your mindset, fashion, online dating, how external effects affect your dating and sex life and so on. He doesn’t just talk either, he shows guys how to do this with his coaching programme. This is all wrapped up in a awesome silver themed blog – check it out!
AME: Thank you for being here JT. For my readers who don’t know you, can you tell them how you got into the dating/pick up community – what made you want to get a handle on your dating life?
JT: I realized at 24 years of age that I had a BIG problem-
I was a virgin, never kissed a girl, and had absolutely no experience with woman whatsoever.
I used to think that being good with women was something that guys were either born with or not; and at that time I figured I was just not born with it…
That was my belief until I caught an episode of ‘The Pickup Artist’ reality show on VH1. When I saw that getting better with women was something that can be taught and learned, I was convinced I could improve my situation. This was the only motivation I needed to get this area of my life handled.
AME: Well you’ve honestly got it covered now! However, if you had to pick three things that the average chode is currently doing wrong in gaming girls (or life), what would you tell them to stop?
JT: In no particular order-
1) Living in hope – “Hope” is an excuse for the average frustrated chump to read dozens of ebooks and attend numerous seminars hoping he’ll change his situation without ever doing anything out of his comfort zone.
Change (real change) only happens when a person takes action (approaching women), which is living in reality…not hope, which is where keyboard jockeys live.
2) Putting women on a pedestal – Before a man ever puts a woman he doesn’t know on a pedestal, he should put himself up on one first.
Women blow off guys because they can sense when a man doesn’t respect himself (because putting women on a pedestal is communicating that a man doesn’t believe he is worthy, and that he isn’t ‘enough’ for her); if a man can’t respect himself, he shouldn’t expect women to respect him either.
3) Playing to lose – Guys don’t want to be rejected, so they’ll seek to avoid rejection or seek to lessen its pain in any way possible. However, when a guy does this, he’s playing it safe…he’s playing to lose. Cowards do this, and women are not attracted to cowards. Chose to be bold and take risks, don’t chose to be a coward and avoid rejection.
AME: I personally love the variety and range of your articles. However, someone people can get lost in a sea of great material and not know where to begin. What do you consider your three best videos/articles for a beginner to look at?
JT: #1 Unleash Your Inner-Pimp: Overcoming Shyness – 10 Tips to not only overcome shyness, but to become a man that confidently approaches the women he’s attracted to.
#2 Sex On The First Date? Yes, This Is For Me – A field report where I highlight and describe my championship mindsets and behaviors during a date.
#3 Decisions Chisel Fate – The decisions I made that chiseled the transformation in my dating life.
(Editors Note: Click any title to read the article on JT’s site)
AME: Sticking with beginners, if you had to give 3 tips to someone completely new to get good at this game with women fast, what would they be?
JT: #1) Women desperately want to meet cool guys. Be a cool guy, get girls. That’s it. This means if a guy doesn’t already believe he’s cool, then work needs to be done from within.
#2) It’s best to have a nonjudgement attitude regarding sex so that a women can feel comfortable being sexual around a man; she isn’t worried that a man will lose respect for her just because she expresses her natural desires. Also, women love sex…but they won’t have sex with bitter, insecure, and needy men.
#3) Women won’t pick themselves up; meaning, it’s 100% the man’s responsibility to approach, lead, and take the reigns of a relationship. Women expect this from men, and when a man fails to do this, women become disappointed.
AME: One thing that changed how I looked at interacting with women was how sometimes you need to do things that seem wrong to get better with women e.g. ignoring a girl, makes her work harder to get attract you. Can you tell me any tips you have found that are like this? Things that shouldn’t work but do.
JT: It seems the overwhelming majority of pickup material focuses too much on opening. However, opening isn’t a big deal because it takes one second to successfully “open”. Let me explain-
Where most guys fail at opening is not having the girls’ full and undivided attention before they ever even open their mouth. No matter what a guy says or does, if he doesn’t have a girls’ focus entirely on him, then the pickup won’t go very far.
Instead of thinking about opening, guys should be thinking how they can get her attention first.
AME: Finally, the big question! Imagine we can get every guy to a ‘Get Better with Women’ summit. You get a few minutes to speak to them all. What speech do you give?
JT: I’d tell men that getting better with women and improving their current dating situation is definitely something that can be done. I’ve done it for myself, and I’ve seen men of various ages, race, and status accomplish this as well.
The exact subject of accomplishing success with women is detailed over at my blog, Get Girl Not Game. Check it out!
Awesome! Well thank you very much for taking the time to speak to us JT, I think our readers will love the new insight and mindsets you’ve provided.
If you’ve liked this dude and would like to keep up-to-date with what he’s doing, click on the following links to find his stuff: