Does your outside match your inside?
When you look into the mirror, does the reflection shone back reflect who you feel as a person inside?
I’ve recently started a new job, which required me to move to a new city. It’s been quite a culture shock to get used to the congas of traffic, noise and pollution and new routines since I’ve been holed up, in my rural paradise. However, what I have realised most recently, is how people are judged on their appearance.
Walking down a street, or sitting opposite someone on a bus, you can’t help but judge someone on how they look. It’s not big, it’s not clever but its a basic instinct that modern man has developed. You are judged by how you look. You are judged by how you dress. You are judged by how you control your body. You are judged by the way you speak. Everything you do, is judged by others.
The problem is however, few of us have our outside looking the way we feel on the inside. You can be smart, intelligent, mature or whatever one (or more) characteristics you want to have in your personality, but if you don’t show it on the outside, your doomed to be judged wrongly by others. It may sound vain, silly or juvenile, but sadly that is how the world works.
What I suggest you do, is to sit down and write down (or even just think in your head), who you are as a person, what values you hold true to yourself. Think of who you truly are, not who others want you to be or who you think you should be to please others. Think on what is important in your life and what you want from your life.
If you feel fit and strong on the inside, let that show by developing muscle. A fat gut won’t show that. If you feel confident on the inside, let that shine through by working strong body language that is open and direct. If you enjoy more cultured and finer things of life, why would you copy others and let your jeans hang under your ass?
We are all unique and great. The differences in us defines us and yet makes us appealing to others. However, few of us ever let our outsides show what we feel on the inside. We fear being different to others, we fear not fitting in, we fear being seen as the odd one out. Yet, it is this uniqueness that makes us the person we are meant to be.
Make turning your outside to the same as your inside, a mission in your life. That hot girl at the bar will judge you on how you look first. Sadly few will go past that, if the outside isn’t appealing, regardless of the true greatness you have within yourself. A potential employer will mark you down for nerves in your voice or poor body language, even though you may be more than capable of doing the job. This sort of thing is played out in all areas of your life.
I spent years feeling wrong within myself. I was interested in different things to the activities I spent my time doing with old friends. I dressed like them. I drunk at crappy pubs with them, just to have a social life. The list goes on. All that time, I wasted by making my outside match others, not what was inside me. It was only when I started to do the activities that I enjoyed, dressed as I really felt, stopped drinking to numb the pain of boredom and instead started working out, that I made the life of the way I dreamed of.
Why waste time? Don’t make my mistakes. Sit down and work out what is inside you. Realise the person you are inside. Then make sure your outside matches that!