What are these clips about?

Kobe Bryant and his Laser Focus.

Bryant is a extra-ordinary talent on the Basketball field. He seems unstoppable while he is driving to the backboard to score. He seems to have a laser focus on the basket and nothing else comes into consideration. He plays with passion and is willing to take the game deciding shots when needed. He plays fully present in the moment and is focused on winning and the joy of the game, more than for a trophy at the end of it.

 

Why should I care?
  • Bryant is focused on winning. He knows his overall goal and the RAS part of his brain focuses solely on winning. He blanks out all the distractions and goes after the target, in this case to win the game and score points. You should adopt this approach when in a club – forget the distractions and focus on the girls you want. You want similar laser focus.
  • Bryant is highly passionate about playing, he plays for the love of the game and enjoys being present in the moment fully. Bryant is one of the best players ever because he focuses his energy on his goal, he tries the shots that others won’t due to fear of missing, he will take game deciding shots and is willing to risk failure to succeed. If you are only experiencing success in a club, the chances are you are sticking to easy ‘targets’. Step outside your comfort zone and go for the hotter girls.
  • Bryant is a prime example of someone who wants to be the best. He practises the basics again and again. He puts in the hours of repetitive work to make his actions automatic and to happen the same regardless of environment. Practise your pick up skills too, so regardless of what environment you are in, you act as the skills are part of you. Bryant has the confidence to make the game deciding shots simply because he has worked his ass off and learnt how to make these shots hundreds of times before. He has reference points of his success and brings these onto the court on game day to draw confidence from.
  • Having a goal to focus on will ensure you work towards it. By being completely focused on the goal, you won’t procrastinate or muck around. Make your goal part of your identity (e.g. to become the best with women). Identify with the change you want to become and work towards it.

 

Sounds good, any tips on how I can rock that too?
  • Pick a goal that means something to you. Don’t pick a goal that is expected of you or that is wanted for you by parents, girlfriends etc. You need to find out who you are and what you want from life. When you find something that ‘feels right’, you will find that you focus on it automatically.
  • Look at your life objectively. You will find that the 80/20 rule applies – 20% of your actions will provide 80% of your main benefits. Cut out those actions that don’t work for you (e.g. watching crappy TV, not approaching in clubs, not going to the gym etc). You will find that there are a lot of actions that you do that hold you back – 80/20 will allow you to remove the wasteful actions. Focus solely on the things that lead you towards your goals.
  • Put the hours of practise in. Your brain is distracted daily by the numerous interruptions that we have in our daily lives. You need to practise focusing in on your goal to teach your brain to focus on only on what you want. At first, your brain will struggle against the change as it is out of your comfort zone. However, with some practise, the brain should start to phase out external junk and focus only on what matters.
  • Be willing to lose. Step outside your comfort zone.Be willing to sacrifice things to drive towards your goals. Be 100% committed towards your goal and be clear in your thoughts, words and actions – your intent is towards your goal and you need your thoughts, words and actions to be 100% aimed at achieving your goal.
  • The following videos will help you grasp these concepts further:

 

 

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What is it?

Character: Jason Bourne
From: The Bourne Ultimatum
Type: Action Stars
What is this clip about: Bourne has travelled to Waterloo Station to meet Simon Ross (a journalist from the Guardian Newspaper, who claims to know his past – which Bourne has forgotten since his amnesia in the first film – The Bourne Identity). The CIA are tracking Ross and Bourne must lead him away from their Grab Teams (who will arrest him and take him into thier custody).

 

Why should I watch it?
  • Bourne uses a variety of Alpha techniques to control Ross. He uses a strong, deep tone which Ross follows instinctively (Ross is a cracking Beta Male). When dealing with Ross, he reassures him when needed, he shouts at him if required. He reads Ross well and adapts his style to suit the situation.
  • Bourne stays calm throughout the scene, regardless of how pressurised it becomes with the various Grab Teams trying to get Ross. Even when Ross messes up and reveals his location to the CIA, Bourne stays calm and tries to rectify the situation. A good contrast to look at is how Calm Bourne is compared to the CIA guys – even when he is fighting them, Bourne seems completely at ease and in control.
  • Bourne has supreme confidence in himself and his skills. He is guiding Ross to safety, as well as monitoring where the security cameras are looking at, as well as ensuring he is kept hidden too – a multi-tasker! He uses his skills to blend in and does things almost on autopilot. You should aim to be like Bourne and become so skilled that you can run on autopilot towards your goals.
  • Bourne has a overall goal – which is to get Ross away from the CIA – but he keeps flexible and works with whatever happens at the time. Bourne starts by leading Ross one way but when Ross gets spooked and runs, Bourne takes stock of the situation and creates a new plan, involving himself in disarming the CIA operatives. Bourne is flexible and fluid with his planning, which helps him be successful (to a point anyway!).
  • The fight scene at the end rocks! Bourne being a true Alpha, kicks some serious ass!
  • It’s not hard to imagine that Bourne would be like this with a woman and she wouldn’t be able to resist.
How can I be like that?
  •  Don’t be afraid to raise your voice, it is allowed and in some situations needed. Practice in every situation possible. In nightclubs, pubs etc, talk louder as if the person you were talking to is a few feet further away than they truly are.
  • Try and monitor what you are saying. A lot of girls like to be lead but if you are always asking for reassurance or asking them a lot of questions, they will not take you as a leader, no matter how hard you try. Leaders lead and you should lead the interaction, lead the conversation and where you go and when. Girls want it and you should man up and do it.
  • Practise in social situations. For example, in a pub, take charge of the drink order, be the one who asks around the group, make sure people can hear you, stand up if everyone is sitting down. Take the position of power, ask direct questions and seek answers. People look for a leader in all situations, it is natural for most people to want to follow – be different and lead.
  • Become knowledgeable and skilled in multiple forms. Learn a lot about as many new things as possible things and learn how to do things, like car maintenance, house DIY etc. Become the ‘go to guy’ for people. People tend to follow people who can do things for them. You will notice that people just accept and follow people who others go to for assistance, it’s a social group thing. They want to be lead. People want to pass responsibility for themselves to another, to relieve themselves of the burden of making decisions for themselves – be the guy who makes the decisions for them!
  • Something that I recommend are improvisation and debating classes and similar events where you are given events outwith your control and you have to respond to them straight away. It helps you to think on your feet (like Bourne does) and if you practice it right, you can develop the strong, masculine style of leadership that Bourne uses.
So, what do you think – have I answered this well? Do you understand the term better now or do you have questions? Please let me know in the comments below.

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I have been getting some emails asking if I can put a list up of the typical characteristics of a Alpha Male. In response, I have compiled a quick list below. I have also created a page in the menu bar called … believe it or not! … ‘Alpha Male Characteristics’ (I know – I’m mad like that!) lol). I will add to this page as needed.

The following are some of the Alpha Male Characteristics that you should aim to have as an authentic part of your life. An Alpha Male:

  • Has confidence in himself. He uses internal references from past experiences and faith in himself to be confident. He doesn’t rely on others interpretations of him (which may change) to be confident – he believes in himself always.
  • He is not afraid to act dominant towards women. He leads women and leads the interaction. He is not afraid to be ‘the man’ in the encounter and escalate the interaction to a point where he can sleep with her.
  • He does not suck up to women, he is the chooser and lets women work to prove they are good enough for him. He isn’t jealous or possessive towards women. An Alpha Male will not put a woman on a pedestal and make her special. They have to work to show they can fit into his life and bring value too.
  • Has drive in his life, has a goal and an ambition he works towards. He doesn’t care about people that are trying to bring him down as he works solely towards his goal (but he is not selfish enough to ignore others – he brings them along)
  • He is passionate about whatever her does. He cares deeply about his job, family, hobbies etc. He does nothing to impress others.
  • He doesn’t lie to suck up to girls or guys, he says what he thinks and is honest, whether to someone’s face or not.
  • He is integral in his actions, he sticks to his principles and core values in life.
  • He is positive about life, he accepts rejection as a learning experience and moves on to the next encounter. He is mature enough to walk away from things that are not working out. He forgives his failures. He accepts the past is over and the future is his to shape as he sees fit.
  • He speaks his mind and confronts those that need it, he is assertive when needed
  • He dresses as he wants to, regardless of how people think of his style.
  • He leads others, he doesn’t shy away from taking charge and leading others. Yet he accepts to follow when he sees it is for the greater good. He sees it as a opportunity and not a threat to his masculinity like chodes would.
  • He believes in himself and finds the confidence within himself. He does not need approval from others to accept or believe in himself.
  • He has a great sense of humor. He makes jokes, laughs at jokes and wants to have a fun time.
  • He acts with intent and each action is moving him towards his goal. His goal is what drives him in his life.
  • He will take risks as necessary to move towards his goal. An Alpha Male will not play it safe if he can take a risk and better himself.
  • He values his time and decides what he does in his time. He tries to be as productive as possible in his time. However, when he relaxes and has fun, he gives it all, to enjoy the experience as much as possible.
  • He doesn’t need a woman to make his life complete, he is happy as he draws the confidence from within himself. However, when he is dating, he makes sure she is going to fit into his life and be suitable for him. He chooses her and gives the relationship his all.

 

Can you think of others that I’ve missed? Have a question on one of these characteristics? Let me know in the comments below or send me a email (using the Contact page).

Hope this helps you guys!

 

What is it?

Character: Saul ‘Slash’ Hudson
From: Velvet Revolver
Type: Music Stars
What is this clip about: At a live festival gig, this clip shows the Slash ripping out a guitar solo from one of his most famous songs.

Why should I watch it?

  • Slash gets into state when he plays guitar, it is his main love in life. You can imagine him to be never happy than when playing his guitar, even alone. He feeds off the energy of the crowd too. He is self-amusing, you can see that he genuinely loves to play. He takes centre stage and bounces around, notice how he focuses solely on his guitar during much of the solo, he blanks out the world, its just him and the guitar, he’s in paradise.
  • Slash has created himself that is true to him. He dresses and acts the way he wants, regardless of his age. He has been playing for over twenty years now and still plays and acts the way he enjoys.
  • What Slash does is complicated but he makes it look easy. He manipulates the strings and actual guitar body to play the famous notes but he does it with ease. He plays the notes tenderly and focuses on his craft. Hours of practise have happened for him to play the way he does.
  • Despite other famous band mates and a lead singer, notice how your eye constantly always finds Slash. His image, ability and enthusiasm, just draws the viewer in. Slash is just himself and people love his authenticity.
  • When the camera zooms in on his, notice how he is almost in a trance, he is so dedicated to his playing, sweat is running down his face but he doesn’t care.

 

How can I do that?

  • Decide on something that you want to learn or do. Don’t pick a hobby or interest that is expected or demanded of you by others, even family. Girls can easily see when you are not honestly interested in something (or what they are saying!). Pick a hobby or interest that you truly love.
  • Slash was notorious for missing school and practising 12 hours a day. Put in the work and get as good at your hobby or interest as you possibly can.
  • Learn all about your hobby or interest. Look at it’s origins, how different people in different cultures do it etc. Look at your chosen thing, from as many new perspectives as possible. For example, if it’s a musical instrument, try playing a song that you don’t like or from another genre than you play usually.
  • A good way to judge a hobby or interest that you are passionate about, is to see if you can talk about it. By definition, you should be able to explain it to someone else with passion, you should be able to sell them on why you like it so much. Unfortunately, you will find the opposite a lot in girls and guys a lot – they claim to like something just to fit in with the group (read: Hollyoaks etc). Don’t be that guy though. Girls see through bullshit and they hate liars. Be the guy who isn’t afraid to be himself and does what he wants – a Alpha Male!
  • Try new things and new experiences. Discover who you truly are by pushing your comfort zone and learn about the world, animals, poetry, politics, religion, sexuality and so on. Learn about your interests, likes and dislikes. Your gut will tell you what feels right and what doesn’t. Listen to your natural reactions to things. Find something that feels right to you without really thinking about it and explore it further. You never know where it may lead you.

 

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What is it?

Character: Jason Bourne
From: The Bourne Supremacy
Type: Action Stars
What is this clip about: Bourne is being chased through the streets of Moscow by the Police, who are trying to capture him, and an Asset, who is intent on killing him. Bourne has to escape capture, whilst injured and avoid his potential murder.

 

Why should I watch it?

  • Bourne is injured and is fighting like a wounded animal. He uses his ingenuity to escape throughout. This scene is a great example of someone with a goal (to escape the authorities), thinking on his feet and keeping a flexible game-plan if things go wrong.
  • Bourne doesn’t panic, he believes in himself and skills. Even when he is being shot at, he is focused on his goal of escaping and is prepared to crash into other cars and bumps to achieve what he needs to achieve.
  • Bourne is confident to drive, at speed, in a place which he doesn’t know well. Added to this, he reads the map and tends to his wound also while driving at high speed. That’s a great example of Alpha Male confidence!
  • After escaping the first cops, Bourne attempts his first route away. However, when more Cops join the chase, notice how Bourne quickly works out a new plan. He understands that he needs to stay fluid and flexible in his approach to ensure he achieves his main goal. This is a needed quality when picking up women!
  • Even in mortal danger and it looks like Bourne is about to be killed, he stays calm and works a solution, where the majority of normal people would have been too scared to do anything due to fear and panic.

 

How can I do that?

  • It is OK to go out with a game plan of what you are going to do (for example, the opener you will use, the chat up lines and what techniques you will use). However, it is wrong to stick too rigidly to it. You can never control another person and the events that happen on a night out. You need to be able to adapt and change as the events progress.
  • Accept that it will never be the right moment or the exact set of situations needed for your plan. It is OK to have a rough plan of what you want to do (e.g. approach 5-10 women, try a kiss test within 5 mins, go to these 3 bars then this club etc) but understand that nothing can be counted on. Be like water, and find a new path to flow into if your original channels are blocked. Be fluid, not solid in your resistance.
  • Try new things … a lot. Not only will it give you inner confidence and new experiences by doing new things, it will also develop your brain to think on its feet in new situations. Push yourself out of the comfort zone you’re in and learn to take risks.
  • Try some improvisation and debating classes as these will teach you to react to events and talk/act back without too much hesitation.
  • Have an end goal you would like at the end of the night but stay open and flexible about how you will achieve it. Try some nights, where you just go where a friend wants to go, a new place opening event, a evening class advertised in the paper etc.

 

So, do I have it right? Did it blow your mind or suck ass? Let me know in the comments below and then watch another!

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What is it?

Character: Chael Sonnen
From: UFC (Ultimate Fighting Championship)
Type: Sport Stars
What is this clip about: In this clip, there is a mash up of a selection of Chael’d interviews, that show him being self-amusing.

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Why should I watch it?

  • Chael is by far one of the most amusing Sports stars you will ever listen to. Every media appearance or interview he has, he talks as he thinks. He really doesn’t care what he says, he just self-amuses himself as he goes.
  • He has created a persona or a identity for himself as ‘The Most Interesting Man’. People now expect it of him and will watch his interviews etc to see what he will do next. This gives him internal self-confidence reference points and builds his confidence and allows his to do his thing.
  • He verbally rides the beta males in the interviews. Some are afraid to look him in the eye or confront him. He looks people direct in the eye as if he is challenging them to try and interrupt him. He talks loud and clearly and with passion. Beta males just let him talk for fear of what he may do next.
  • Chael just doesn’t care. He says as he feels. He makes jokes and self amuses as he goes. Notice how he never backs down regardless of what is happening. Even surrounded by tough as nails MMA fighters (at the Press Conferences) he doesn’t care, he just talks as he wants.

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How can I do that?

  • To be frank, Chael is not a complete Alpha Male. Some of what he does is completely wrong and beta.
  • Practice in all social situations. Start small and take baby steps. Try and push the tempo of all conversations. Go for broke, say what you want. You will need to grow a set and say what you think. People may react at first but keep at it long enough and people will accept it as a reality.
  • On nights out etc, make women a secondary target. Go out with the sole idea of having fun. Make a target of saying as you think and enjoying what you do e.g. bored in a conversation then leave etc. You don’t need to suck up to people. Your mission is to simply have fun. Strangely enough, girls will be attracted to you if you are ignoring them and just having fun. Weird but true!
  • Try new things and hobbies. Find things in your life that you truly enjoy and make you have fun. Make your life as fun as possible so you find everything enjoyable.
  • Try hobbies such as public speaking, stand up comedy classes etc. These sort of classes will help you get used to talking to crowds and being funny. They will also help you deal with pressure from crowds and saying what you think regardless.

So, do I have it right? Did it blow your mind or suck ass? Let me know in the comments below and then watch another!

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What is it?

Character: Frankie Boyle
From: A range of Comedy Shows.
Type: Comedy Stars
What is this clip about: Frankie Boyle’s 10 darkest (read funniest!) jokes.

 

Why should I watch it?

  • Comedy is funny, Frankie Boyle is funnier. His jokes are like those you tell your friend when no one else is listening, he just says it out loud.
  • Boyle doesn’t pull any punches. He is self amusing throughout. You can tell he is just being himself and saying what he finds funny (notice he laughs at most of his own jokes).
  • He doesn’t suck up – like most people would do – when people comment on how bad his jokes are. He sticks to his guns and just says what he wants.
  • Boyle is in the public eye, where people are judged harsher than you would be in norml life but he continues his ‘dark’ material the same as he did before his TV fame.

 

How can I do that?

  • Stop caring, you can’t please everyone. Some people will dislike you regardless of how you act, so stop caring and concentrate on being your true self. Say as you think, don’t brown-nose to anyone.
  • Find people that you trust and can be yourself around. Use the confidence gained from this to be yourself with others.
  • Start small if needed. Look for small confrontations you can do and build from there. Instead of letting people off with things, say how you really feel. The confidence you gain from this can be used to challenge in bigger and bigger situations.
  • Humour is an important part of life. Use everyday as a chance to build on your humour and chances to see what you find funny in your life. Try new things and enjoy life. Don’t live someone else’s.

 

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What is it?

Character: The Joker
From: Batman Begins
Type: Action Star
What is this clip about: The Joker has been arrested and is being interrogated by Batman (played by Christian Bale). Throughout the interview, Batman resorts to violence to try and scare the Joker into giving up information, which leads to interesting results.

 

Why should I watch it?

  • The Joker is himself throughout the clip, regardless of whether he is threatened by violence or is actually assaulted by Batman. The Joker does not back down, suck up to Batman or give up on his beliefs solely because Batman is trying to kick the crap out of him.
  • The Joker can read the real reasons behind Batman’s motives and actions. Batman can’t read the Joker and therefore has to resort to violence. The Joker says exactly as he thinks and sticks to his end goal throughout the clip.
  • The Joker is in Police room being interrogated by Batman – who scares all the other Mobsters and Villains, yet the Joker doesn’t care. The Joker remains in control when threatened, he self amuses and cracks jokes and says exactly as he thinks, looking Batman straight in the eye.
  • The Joker remains confident, self-assured and sticks to his skills – e.g. talks his way into people’s heads (Batman gets frustrated and has to resort to violence).

 

How can I do that?

  • Accept that some guys will be dickheads in life (and you will find a lot of them in Pubs and nightclubs). Some guys may go Caveman style at you if they see you coming into their area and trying on a girl they like. Understand that not everyone is as smart as you – assuming your smart as you’re reading this site! – and they may resort to violence. Be prepared for confrontation – just in case. Remember, bullies are scared of you taking their place in the group – try and befriend them if they are in the group with the girl you want (you should befriend and talk to all the group anyway!).
  • Learn to difuse situations away from Pick-up. Confront people (only when needed) in less potentially aggressive places. Stand up for yourself or debate things with people. Try and change their viewpoints and argue your side. Learn to use your negotiation and talking skills to turn people to follow your viewpoint and way of thinking. Bullies/aggressive people can be talked down (I do it regularly).
  • Learn to look past what is happening and consider why things are happening. Look at people’s actions. Are they afraid, are they out of control, are they a bully, have they never been challenged before and so on – each action we do in life has a motive behind it. Most guys will threaten but will never actually resort to violence. Learn to read the real reason somebody does something.
  • If someone takes a swing at you, remain calm. Stick to your true self. People that fight get thrown out. Let the chump get launched out and then go and hit on more hotties.
  • Have a end goal in your life. Find something that you want from life and pursue it continuously. People back down when they see you can’t be threatened by them. Having a end goal will help you ignore bell-ends trying to threaten or hit you when you are trying to pickup women.
  • Unlike the Joker, I’d advise you to learn some basic self-defence. I am leaning more towards Krav Maga as it seems to be the perfect blend of skills that you need in a fight where alcohol can totally affect someone’s normal behaviour.
  • Use positive, open body language. Smile and stand up straight. Anticipate the danger. Most guys throw wild haymakers and you can see them coming a mile away. Dress well so you feel confident in yourself and be sociable to all. Bullies won’t go for the person who is liked by the group – to avoid them becoming alienated by the others.

 

So, who do you think won in that scene? Did it blow your mind or suck ass? Let me know in the comments below and then watch another!

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What is it?

Character: James Bond (played by Daniel Craig)
From: James Bond Films!
Type: Film
Year: 2006
What is this clip about: James Bond meets the über sultry Vesper Lynd (Eva Green) for the first time and they sound each other out over dinner. This is my favourite film and this clip blew my mind the first time that I saw it. It is probably the first time in a James Bond movie that Bond is challenged by a ‘Bond Girl’. I am hoping to go into this scene further in future posts.

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Why should I watch it?

  • Bond and Vesper give a master class in the ability to shift who is holding the power in a conversation back and forth by simply what you say.
  • Bond sounds her out to see if she is worth his time. He makes her work to see if she is worth pursuing. He is self-amusing and doesn’t supplicate to her.
  • Bond tools her repeatedly and draws her in, she responds to him throughout. Bond is brilliant in how he engages women throughout the film.
  • Bond stays on the right side of confidence vs arrogance. He thanks her for mentioning his ass (which could lead to an arrogant reply), but he also uses self-depreciating language to avoid coming across as arrogant (sympathising with the skewered lamb).
  • Bond talks masculine in a deep and slow manner, maintains strong eye contact and dresses smartly. These all allow him to feel good within himself and project the confidence outward. He is also in great shape and this makes him feel confident and secure in himself.This clip is a great example of how you can draw confidence from your daily life.

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How can I do that?

  • Stop putting women on pedestals – stop making them ‘special’. A lot of dating guys will not put any serious work or be too bothered towards a woman in any way until he has slept with them.
  • Self-amuse around women. Go out simply to have fun – women are a secondary consideration. Build a life of great fun and excitment and women will be naturally attracted to you.
  • Look to hang around with people who challenge you and encourage you to learn new skills and better yourself. As the old saying goes: “if you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room!”
  • Have hobbies and interests that you enjoy and can talk about. Be interested in the world around you and during interactions with people.
  • Dress confidently and maintain the virtues of deep masculine tone, strong eye contact, get into shape etc.
  • Appreciate and enjoy the little things in life e.g. a great conversation.

So, who do you think won in that scene? Did it blow your mind or suck ass? Let me know in the comments below and then watch another!

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What is it?

Character: Lord Flashheart
From: Blackadder
Type: Comedy Stars
What is this clip about: Blackadder and George have decided to join the ’20 Minuters’ flying squad and are going to their first training lession … being led by Lord Flashheart!

Why should I watch it?

  • Lord Flashheart just doesn’t care. He struts in and says and he says and does as he wants. Notice how he swaggers in, with complete confidence (the character is meant to be sex-mad so he leads by the groin).
  • He completely controls the group of men, who all hang on his words (obviously except for Blackadder who hates him!). He assumes that they all love him and want to follow him. He tools people who are not completely down with his beliefs. He trusts in himself that the guys will follow him.
  • He builds emotional state in the group by making crude jokes, talking loudly and excitedly and gets them to join in by repeating catch-phrases  (a lot of dating guys will get you to do this sort of thing at the start of a night to build your state and loose your inhibitions). He becomes the ‘cool’ guy of the group and people gravitate towards the cool person in the group.
  • He has complete control. He takes up the room, he is loud, projecting his voice far, locks eye contact with anyone who speaks to him and just tells them, not asks, tells them what to do. It’s an over-dramatic display but you get the gist of it!

 

How can I do that?

  • Stop trying to befriend everyone. Stop caring and trying to please everyone – it’s not possible. Set your beliefs and stick to them. You can’t appease everyone but you will be happier inside by being true to your core values as a person.
  • People like to be led. Try talking a bit louder than other males. Lock in eye contact with people you speak to. Build an emotional state in them. Do this by talking excitedly about what you enjoy, bring others into the conversation, look to give value to others rather than leech value from others.
  • Some people will try and challenge you for leadership. Learn to deal with confrontation. Talk loudly when needed. Speak your mind and don’t try to suck up but ensure you speak as you believe. Some people are general dicks and you should just ignore them as it isn’t worth your time.
  • Leadership is about understanding what you followers need and supplying it to them but also about telling them how to do it. Practise giving people small orders and expand from there. People follow people who are good at helping them. Build your reputation as the go to guy for help by continually learning and developing yourself.
  • Try volunteering with coaching kids or something similar. Maybe look at doing some supervisor work in your job. Start small but learn to lead from the front. Any experience in leading others (no matter their age) is a major step in the right direction.

 

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