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#33 SciBabe Yvette d’Entremont on Science, fake news and critical thinking

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Episode: #33 SciBabe Yvette d’Entremont on Science, fake news and critical thinking
Who: Today’s guest is SciBabe Yvette d’Entremont. Yvette runs the hilariously and educational ‘SciBabe’ where you come for the science, stay for the dirty jokes. Yvette is a scientist, public speaker, science blogger, and former analytical chemist with a background in forensics and toxicology. In this interview we discuss her story, Science, teaching men about science, facts vs fake news, modern science vs new age remedies and so on.

 

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What we cover

  • Who she is
  • Dating and her love for a good cup of coffee!
  • Difference in social bonding and language between groups of friends in the UK and the US
  • Why the SciBabe is so popular
  • Where guys are going wrong nowadays – you’re entitled to it but it doesn’t make it valid
  • How to gauge sources and people to listen to in life
  • Her experience on the Joe Rogan podcast
  • The Chiropractic field and how to deal with negative reactions to opinions
  • Facts vs opinions and how to develop your own critical thinking
  • The problem with products endorsed by celebrities and the influence it has on the consumer over their thinking
  • How we incorrectly judge the information we consume and how we skew what we think by our own bias
  • How you can understand science no matter where you start from
  • What she wants people to take from the interview
  • How you can keep in touch with her
  • And so much more …

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#32 Gary John Bishop on how to get out of your head and into your life

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Episode: #32 Gary John Bishop on how to get out of your head and into your life
Who: Today’s guest is Gary John Bishop is a Scottish personal development expert who gives real and raw advice that actually works by telling it is as it is. Gary is able to reach through the BS and help you fix the deeper issues that are holding you back from becoming the man that you want to be. Even when editing the audio, I was taking extra things from that were big ‘aha’ moments for me. This one is worth a few listens as Gary is dropping some serious gems for your betterment!

 

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What we cover

  • Who he is
  • What led him into the world of self-development as a young man
  • The types of problems that he sees guys coming to him for help with – to sum it up – “same bullshit but a different tune!”
  • His unique approach to self-development that will really help you change
  • How do we identify ourselves – what are ‘we’, what constitutes ‘you’ in this universe?
  • How our range of being, affect our actions throughout the day and interactions with other people
  • Is it possible for anyone to change their habits and life?
  • How your self-talk can change what your capable of in a single moment
  • It’s not what your feeling, it’s what you’re doing about it
  • What shapes what we do as a person?
  • How the typical ‘self-help’ phrases or beliefs are doing you no favors
  • How can someone listening start changing their life right now no matter where you are starting from
  • How your success as a human is tied into how well you can keep a promise to yourself
  • Get committed first and then work out how you are going to do it
  • What relevance do emotions hold for us? How to use their messages to benefit your transformation and actions
  • What you should avoid doing when speaking to yourself and others
  • How can you reframe depression and problems to overcome them – Gary provides a very personal example of how he overcame resentment and anger from his childhood to be a better man and have a better relationship with his family
  • How can you let go of your personal demons, ex-partner, anger, hatred or whatever you allow to hold you back from becoming the man you want to be
  • How we can raise our children to be good people and not live our own lives again through our own children – “you’re not turning into your father, you are turning into who you thought your father was”
  • His book – why you should buy a copy right now!
  • How transformation is not just for the rich!
  • The Creative Live class you need to check out            (Creative Live, 9 am Pacific, 14 December 2017, just need to register and you can watch online)
  • What you should take from this interview – how are you going to act from now on
  • How you can keep in touch with him
  • And so much more!

 

 

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#29 Wade Alters on how to change your core beliefs and get the life you want

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Episode: #29 Wade Alters on how to change your core beliefs and get the life you want

Who: Tonight’s guest is the entrepreneur, life coach and social dynamic extraordinaire, Wade Alters. He was formerly dating coach Brad Branson from Real Social Dynamics and is now venturing out with his new company 3 Impact Training, whose aim is to coach men on how to become men in today’s society. In this interview, we discuss core beliefs, identity, overcoming limitations and how to become the man you always wanted to become. We go pretty deep on this one and Wade will help you drop the bs baggage and discover things hidden inside you that you won’t believe possible.

 

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 What we cover

  • Who he is
  • What he thinks makes a good man
  • What he thinks is masculinity
  • 6 pillars of self-esteem
  • Can you change deep-seated beliefs
  • Why he never uses the word ‘stress’ – how language affects your identity
  • An exercise he does with his clients on how to identify and fix issues with your core beliefs
  • Are there common problems men have across the globe with women, dating and life
  • How to build confidence and be successful worldwide
  • How to build friendships that support, motivate and help you drive to your goals
  • What are the key skills that every man should have
  • Why you need a mentor
  • Never eat alone Keith Ferrazzi
  • Elite Level Networking
  • Meetup.com & True Mentors.com
  • Transitioning from employee to employer and building a business
  • The Four Pillars of Lifestyle Development is a good starting point product to check out
  • The Wade Alters Show Podcast
  • Stunning client transformations
  • What he attributes his success down to – why you chase the golden nugget
  • The E-Myth Revisited: Why Most Small Businesses Don’t Work and What to Do About It – Michael E. Gerber 
  • Who he looks to as a role model in his life
  • Is building a business the same as building yourself
  • His take on online dating and the effects on modern man
  • Is there framework that works to get women
  • How you can keep in touch with him
  • So much more

 

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Have Rules for your Life – Leroy Jethro Gibbs (NCIS

 

Character: Leroy Jethro Gibbs (guy with grey hair)
From: NCIS
Type:  Action Star

 

What is this  clip about?

In this clip, we see Gibbs’s rules for how to handle investigations and in general terms, life too. The video has been amended by the uploader to show the rules as captions (they are not all mentioned though), which can be annoying at first but it really hits home the message. ‘Gibbs’s Rules’ has become a central theme throughout NCIS. Gibbs is shown to be the boss and ‘father figure’ to his team and especially his Second-in-Command Very Special Agent Tony DiNozzo. When one of the team doesn’t know what to do, is troubled by something or has done something wrong, one of ‘Gibbs’s Rules’ is used to get the character back onto the right path. On a personal note, I have become a big fan of this show – it is on at my parents house a lot (my mother has a thing for Gibbs!). Gibbs to me is a real Alpha Male (he does have some bad faults though) but he is someone to aspire to be like – check out the show.

 

Why should I care?
  • Gibbs’s team look at him for what they should do, he is their guidance and support. By having clear and defined values about how you live your life, you can be someone for others to look up to, like Gibbs.
  • Gibbs is able to go after what he wants (typically to focus in on finding the murderer) because he has set rules about how he does things. By setting out what is and what isn’t acceptable in your life, you will find that you have better focus on what you want and be generally more successful as you will focus your energy on the thing that are most important.
  • Gibbs is respected by his peers, even by those who don’t like him. People respect him as he stands up for what he believes in and never wavers in his beliefs simply to appeal to someone else. Gibbs is true to his intentions and values, a defining characteristic of a Alpha Male.
  • Women find Gibbs attractive in the show as he adheres religiously to his rules. He cannot be swayed by money, power or a pretty girl (Gibb has a thing for redheads!). Gibbs is congruent to his own beliefs and core values, he changes for no-one – something that is very attractive to a girl. 1
  • Gibbs is a former Marine. Look at how tall and erect he is, his stance oozes authority and complete confidence in himself. He has great body language. He uses deep masculine tone, looks people in the eye. He only talks when he needs to. Gibbs is a great example of an Alpha Male.

 

OK I like it. How can I be like this dude?
  • Spend some time working out what you want from life. Decide on the behaviours that you will no longer find acceptable. Decide what you want to achieve in life, decide on the sort of people you want to be friends with and so forth. Basically, you need to setup values of what you will and won’t accept now in life. Then you must live your life adhering to your rules. It doesn’t matter what your rules are, if something is important to you, then it can be a rule. Don’t live by someone else’s rules.
  • Be vocal with what you belief. Don’t yammer on though like a preacher (an Alpha Male only talks when he has something important to say – no filler talk like a Beta male would use). Complain if someone does something that you don’t agree with. Stand up for yourself. Tell people what you stand for. You will find people accept what you say and the majority will not challenge you on your beliefs and accept them (for example, I’m sure you know someone who comes on nights out but never drinks alcohol – notice how no-one tries and forces him to drink alcohol. People accept his choices).
  • Start small if necessary. Make a stand once and you will find that it will give you confidence, you can use this confidence feeling to propel you to do it the next time and so on. The first time will seem the hardest. It seems hard simply because you are learning a new behaviour and like everything, there is a learning curve. Keep at it and your brain will accept it as your standard thinking. Standing up for what you believe in again and again, will create a momentum of confidence and you staying true to what you want. Eventually, your brain will adjust to these actions and beliefs and accept these as standard (yes, I know, a mighty simplification of how it works!).
  • Get good friends. There is an old saying that ‘You are the average of the five people you most hang around with‘ and it’s true. In the show Gibbs has a strong team (who will follow him if he goes against orders, regardless of what the Directors say), women who know what he will accept and won’t and friends who understand him and accept him for his beliefs and actions. Making a change in your life is hard, especially if you don’t have supportive friends/family behind your new life choices. Bad friends can be like crabs in a bucket – when one sees another about to escape the bucket, they pull it back in. Bad friends are like crabs (the seafood and that type too!), if they see you changing for the better, they will get scared and try to pull you back to their level. A lot of people don’t want to change – they need to make the decision to change. However, they don’t want others to change and will feel threatened by you wanting to better yourself. Take stock of who you hang around with. If they are not supportive, you should consider making new mates or going to new places. to surround yourself with a better class of person. Aim to surround yourself with people who are on the level you aspire to be. As the saying goes ‘if you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.’ Try to maintain friends that make you want to better yourself and ‘level up’ to the same as them. Good friends will be there to congratulate you on your successes, analysis the failures with you and be your Wingman when you need it!

 

So what do you think? Is Gibbs an Alpha Male? Do you think and Alpha Male needs defined rules for how he runs his life? Let me know what you think in the comments section below.