Who: Alex Treasure interviewing Timothy Marc (both current RSD Nation stars)
Topic: In this awesome video they discuss, what is the definition of cool and how it helps you get girls! A must watch video for all guys wanting to get better with women!
Why use this?: Alex has very kindly allowed me to use his videos on my site and I have to admit, I learnt a lot from it. In particular, thinking about your mentality using the basketball theory, is mind-blowing for me – you’ll have to watch to see what I mean! At the end of the post, there are external links to Alex and Tim’s websites and Youtube accounts. I’d recommend checking them out at your earliest convenience!!
Having met Alex at a RSD Free event, I can say he is the real deal. He made some amazing life-altering changes to his life. He used to do the same types of things that I was doing at the time: drinking, obsessing about girls, doing the same type of dating experiences and expecting things to be different (as Albert Einstein says – the definition of insanity!). He literally changed my life back then and I’d recommend checking out his material ASAP!
Tim, is one of those people – you just can’t not like him. He is full of energy, gives great tips and insights to help you change your life and now he is helping people build Freedom Businesses, that will give you a steady income that you can run from anywhere in the world! I’ve spoken to Tim a lot over the last few years and he is a great guy. He’s always willing to help and get you the life of your dreams!
Character: Thomas Crown
Played by: Pierce Brosnan
From: The Thomas Crown Affair (1999)
Type: With Women
What is this clip about?
Crown is on a date with Catherine Banning (who is played by the hot Rene Russo), who is a Insurance Investigator sent to investigate the theft of a painting (organised by Crown – to give himself a challenge) and assist the Police in the recovery of the painting. Banning suspects Crown of the crime but also is intrigued by him. She agrees to go to dinner with him, where Crown and Banning play a game of verbal Cat and Mouse as the Police listen in.
So why should I watch it?
In the film, Crown is a hugely successful businessman, with money and power. However he is bored and in need of a challenge. He knows that Banning suspects him of the theft and is working with the Police to prove it was him but he goes to dinner with her anyway. He is looking for a ‘worthy adversary’ and wants to see how she fits into his desires and if she is the challenge he wants.
He seems one step ahead of everyone. He changes where to go to dinner at the last minute to throw the Police. He recognises the Policeman tailing him, simply making a joke about it and not letting it phase him. He is aware of his surroundings throughout and never forgets exactly what is happening. He never gets so into her, that he forgets about the Police and the chance he may be arrested, yet he gets her to fall for him.
Watch how Crown conducts himself throughout the dinner. He dresses immaculately, to give himself inner confidence. He maintains eye contact throughout, he sits upright and with open body language. He leans in to build the tension further as the flirting gets stronger – he isn’t scared to ‘invade’ her personal space, he is going after what he wants.
Listen to the types of things they talk about. Crown asks her personal questions, he reads her using what he has decided about her. He isn’t afraid to ask her direct, personal questions, nor is he afraid to answer them. I love how Crown asks exactly what he thinks. Note how Crown maintains the eye contact, despite some of the questions may scare others to get defensive etc (e.g. his potential arrest).
Crown leads her through the conversation. He researches her a bit beforehand and orders the drinks for her. He leads the conversation, changing it back to her when he wants to and dictates where the conversation goes next. Crown isn’t afraid to lead – something women want in a guy.
OK, how can I be like that?
First off, take the girl you’re dating off the pedestal you put her on. She is not special. She may be hot but she is not special or unique. There are literally millions of girls out there to choose from. Never get serious with a girl until you have at least slept with her once. She will become special as you see how she fits into your life – some will, some won’t. Those that do will be amazing!
Screen girls. YOU are the chooser, not her. Flip the frame on traditional dating – make her work to attract you. Build a life that makes you happy and you are proud of. From now on, make a commitment to screen the girls you met, see if they offer enough value to be added to your life. Few will but the ones that do, will be worth the time spent screening.
Remain focused on your goal in life at all times. It is OK to focus on what you are doing (for Crown, it was a date with a hot girl) but never loose sight of the bigger picture (for Crown it was to have fun, to find a challenge in life). Stay focused on your goal as it gives your life meaning. Always remember to stay aware of your surroundings. Don’t get obcessed with her – let her work for your attention. Remember that there are always other girls that can replace her if needed.
Say what you think, don’t hold back and be willing to invade her personal space. Lead the conversation and experience with her. She wants you to lead. She wants you to be the dominant one in the relationship. Keep the fluffer talk for the beta males, you don’t need to suck up to her, shower her in compliments or any of that jazz. Say and do as you want – watch her reactions. Is she fun enough and cool enough to be part of your fun and active lifestyle?
Push yourself into situations where you are put under pressure. For example, approach girls that are better looking than you normally go for. This way, you are going to get used to higher degrees of pressure than you normally would be – your comfort zone will be expanded and you will be more confident. Use this confidence to go after what you desire.
Start being selfish. Forget about how others may see you. Live your life solely for you. Do things that make you happy and excited. Be like Crown, be self-amusing and enjoy life. Push things to the limit and see where you can go. Make her work to be part of your life, not the other way around.
So what do you think? Is Thomas Crown a good example of screening a girl? Let me know what you think in the comments section below.
Character: Edward ‘Eddie’ Morra (played by Bradley Cooper) Film: Limitless Year: 2011
What is the scene about?:
Eddie is meeting his ex girlfriend, Lindy (played by a hot Abbie Cornish) after been separated for a while. At the start of the film, she dumps Eddie as she has fallen out of love with him, as she has lost respect for him. However, Eddie discovers a wonder drug that lets him learn using his full brain capacity and the results are life-changing! This is the first meeting between the two since Eddie has started harnessing his true power of development.
What makes him an AM:
Eddie is sitting upright, facing Lindy full on. By facing her full on, he is showing open, inviting body language, his non verbal signs are that he is powerful, open and is focused solely on her. He isn’t slouched or looking around, which are Beta behaviours.
00.01 – 00.17: As the waitress approaches, Eddie gives her his full focus. He chats to the waitress in Italian and cracks some jokes and is a bit flirty. Notice that Lindy isn’t sure where to look. She is taken aback by his new skills but is trying to avoid showing her surprise and love of it. Girls never want to show that they are falling for you. They want you to pass their congruence tests and work hard for them – they want the guy to do the running and be the prize for the man. Eddie has flipped the script here by not playing the typical game of the man chasing the girl and being supplicating to her (read: putting her on a pedestal and worshipping her!).
When Eddie chats to the waitress, he is showing that his sociable, easily at home in fancy restaurants and is full of confidence. Lindy knows that he has options (to fuck!), Eddie has taken her off the pedestal that he once had her on (at the start of the film). She is no longer the sole women he has options to, Lindy sub consciously knows that Eddie can go out and get another girl whenever he wants.
00.21 – 00.42: As his ex recovers her composure, she throws – what seems like – a casual question into the conversation. When they are discussing his new talent with speaking Italian, She mentions “I hope you didn’t do it for me?”. This appears on the surface as a bitchy question, as if she is saying that she hopes he never learnt it to impress her (something the old Eddie and a Beta male would have done) as it didn’t work and she is isn’t interested.
However, if you look at this question from a deeper level, you realise it is also a congruence test. Lindy is falling for Eddie again. On her unconscious level, she is scared that he may be the same Eddie as the weak Eddie in the beginning of the film and she needs reassurances that he has changed. Girls do this is in the clubs and pubs worldwide all the time. They have so many mating options that they can literally pick and choose whoever they want. As they have so many options, they have to come up with tests to eliminate the weaker options, so they are left with the best options available to mate with (or in today’s society – to sleep with). Lindy is seeing if the old Eddie will resurface and this new image and confidence is an act. Notice that the camera focuses on Lindy for a few seconds after Eddie says “No” and references it to his self-development month. Lindy appears shocked. Her ego wanted Eddie to say it was for her. Lindy wanted Eddie to admit his undying love for her (like he does at the start of the film) to give her a confidence boost but she would also be repulsed by him if he did say it. As Eddie states he learnt the language for himself and doesn’t apologise for anything, Lindy is taken aback but you can tell that Eddie has passed her test, the confidence he is showing is real. Change scares people, they always want you to be the same person, particularly if you were a weaker male) then them before. That is why you should look to make real changes to you inner game rather than learn some routines (that won’t work as your behaviour will show its not congruent with the real you.