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How to be authoritative and lead another – Jason Bourne (The Bourne Ultimatium)


What is it?

Character: Jason Bourne
From: The Bourne Ultimatum
Type: Action Stars
What is this clip about: Bourne has travelled to Waterloo Station to meet Simon Ross (a journalist from the Guardian Newspaper, who claims to know his past – which Bourne has forgotten since his amnesia in the first film – The Bourne Identity). The CIA are tracking Ross and Bourne must lead him away from their Grab Teams (who will arrest him and take him into thier custody).


Why should I watch it?
  • Bourne uses a variety of Alpha techniques to control Ross. He uses a strong, deep tone which Ross follows instinctively (Ross is a cracking Beta Male). When dealing with Ross, he reassures him when needed, he shouts at him if required. He reads Ross well and adapts his style to suit the situation.
  • Bourne stays calm throughout the scene, regardless of how pressurised it becomes with the various Grab Teams trying to get Ross. Even when Ross messes up and reveals his location to the CIA, Bourne stays calm and tries to rectify the situation. A good contrast to look at is how Calm Bourne is compared to the CIA guys – even when he is fighting them, Bourne seems completely at ease and in control.
  • Bourne has supreme confidence in himself and his skills. He is guiding Ross to safety, as well as monitoring where the security cameras are looking at, as well as ensuring he is kept hidden too – a multi-tasker! He uses his skills to blend in and does things almost on autopilot. You should aim to be like Bourne and become so skilled that you can run on autopilot towards your goals.
  • Bourne has a overall goal – which is to get Ross away from the CIA – but he keeps flexible and works with whatever happens at the time. Bourne starts by leading Ross one way but when Ross gets spooked and runs, Bourne takes stock of the situation and creates a new plan, involving himself in disarming the CIA operatives. Bourne is flexible and fluid with his planning, which helps him be successful (to a point anyway!).
  • The fight scene at the end rocks! Bourne being a true Alpha, kicks some serious ass!
  • It’s not hard to imagine that Bourne would be like this with a woman and she wouldn’t be able to resist.
How can I be like that?
  •  Don’t be afraid to raise your voice, it is allowed and in some situations needed. Practice in every situation possible. In nightclubs, pubs etc, talk louder as if the person you were talking to is a few feet further away than they truly are.
  • Try and monitor what you are saying. A lot of girls like to be lead but if you are always asking for reassurance or asking them a lot of questions, they will not take you as a leader, no matter how hard you try. Leaders lead and you should lead the interaction, lead the conversation and where you go and when. Girls want it and you should man up and do it.
  • Practise in social situations. For example, in a pub, take charge of the drink order, be the one who asks around the group, make sure people can hear you, stand up if everyone is sitting down. Take the position of power, ask direct questions and seek answers. People look for a leader in all situations, it is natural for most people to want to follow – be different and lead.
  • Become knowledgeable and skilled in multiple forms. Learn a lot about as many new things as possible things and learn how to do things, like car maintenance, house DIY etc. Become the ‘go to guy’ for people. People tend to follow people who can do things for them. You will notice that people just accept and follow people who others go to for assistance, it’s a social group thing. They want to be lead. People want to pass responsibility for themselves to another, to relieve themselves of the burden of making decisions for themselves – be the guy who makes the decisions for them!
  • Something that I recommend are improvisation and debating classes and similar events where you are given events outwith your control and you have to respond to them straight away. It helps you to think on your feet (like Bourne does) and if you practice it right, you can develop the strong, masculine style of leadership that Bourne uses.
So, what do you think – have I answered this well? Do you understand the term better now or do you have questions? Please let me know in the comments below.


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How to be flexible in your Gameplan – Jason Bourne (Matt Damon)


What is it?

Character: Jason Bourne
From: The Bourne Supremacy
Type: Action Stars
What is this clip about: Bourne is being chased through the streets of Moscow by the Police, who are trying to capture him, and an Asset, who is intent on killing him. Bourne has to escape capture, whilst injured and avoid his potential murder.


Why should I watch it?

  • Bourne is injured and is fighting like a wounded animal. He uses his ingenuity to escape throughout. This scene is a great example of someone with a goal (to escape the authorities), thinking on his feet and keeping a flexible game-plan if things go wrong.
  • Bourne doesn’t panic, he believes in himself and skills. Even when he is being shot at, he is focused on his goal of escaping and is prepared to crash into other cars and bumps to achieve what he needs to achieve.
  • Bourne is confident to drive, at speed, in a place which he doesn’t know well. Added to this, he reads the map and tends to his wound also while driving at high speed. That’s a great example of Alpha Male confidence!
  • After escaping the first cops, Bourne attempts his first route away. However, when more Cops join the chase, notice how Bourne quickly works out a new plan. He understands that he needs to stay fluid and flexible in his approach to ensure he achieves his main goal. This is a needed quality when picking up women!
  • Even in mortal danger and it looks like Bourne is about to be killed, he stays calm and works a solution, where the majority of normal people would have been too scared to do anything due to fear and panic.


How can I do that?

  • It is OK to go out with a game plan of what you are going to do (for example, the opener you will use, the chat up lines and what techniques you will use). However, it is wrong to stick too rigidly to it. You can never control another person and the events that happen on a night out. You need to be able to adapt and change as the events progress.
  • Accept that it will never be the right moment or the exact set of situations needed for your plan. It is OK to have a rough plan of what you want to do (e.g. approach 5-10 women, try a kiss test within 5 mins, go to these 3 bars then this club etc) but understand that nothing can be counted on. Be like water, and find a new path to flow into if your original channels are blocked. Be fluid, not solid in your resistance.
  • Try new things … a lot. Not only will it give you inner confidence and new experiences by doing new things, it will also develop your brain to think on its feet in new situations. Push yourself out of the comfort zone you’re in and learn to take risks.
  • Try some improvisation and debating classes as these will teach you to react to events and talk/act back without too much hesitation.
  • Have an end goal you would like at the end of the night but stay open and flexible about how you will achieve it. Try some nights, where you just go where a friend wants to go, a new place opening event, a evening class advertised in the paper etc.


So, do I have it right? Did it blow your mind or suck ass? Let me know in the comments below and then watch another!