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Episode: #43 Alice Little on intimacy, connection and why our perceptions of sex work are very wrong

Who: Alice Little is the number one booking legal sex worker in the United States and works as a courtesan at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch. At only 4ft 8in, she is by far the tiniest lady at the legal brothels in Nevada. A New York native, she has worked as an EMT and horse jockey, loves electronic and tabletop entertainment, and adores intellectual stimulation. A frequent visitor to Virginia City and fascinated by its history, she loves exploring Nevada and all it has to offer. Alice has presented at over 50 Kink and BDSM events nationwide and frequently help couples with their problems in and out of the bedroom. She has recently started writing relationship advice articles for She Knows Media and was also recently featured on the Tim Ferriss Show.

In this interview, we discuss the benefits of sex work, intimacy, building connection with others and why your perceptions of sex work are very likely to be wrong. This topic may not be for everyone but Alice is very humble, honest, open and truthful about the pros and cons for sex workers and is trying to make the industry better for those who use it and work in it.

This interview may offend some but this podcast is here to delve into all areas and find out more and what makes people so successful and so appealing to others. Sex work is one of the oldest industries around and we would be doing a disservice to men by ignoring where we go wrong and by ignoring the industry and its positive benefits that can be provided to those who use it. I have never used a sex worker but this did not mean I was not interested in finding out more and learning about the other side of life as the saying goes. I hope that if anything, like Alice says you learn that sex workers are humans too and deserve the same level of respect and interest as anyone else and hopefully this interview changes your perceptions on sex work too or helps you at least consider your current views on the industry and those who work in it.

 

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I hope you have as much fun listening to this one as I did interviewing ? enjoy! This one is probably not suitable for listening to at work!

 

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What we cover

  • Who she is and why you may have heard her name
  • Her upbringing and how it shaped her outlook on life
  • Is there a common problem that is identifiable in her customers and why they come to see her?
  • What is her definition of masculinity and where do men go wrong?
  • How someone interested should try sex work for the first time
  • Why is the ‘Girlfriend Experience’ so popular among her clients?
  • What does she enjoy the most about her job? How has it changed her and her outlook on life in general?
  • Has she encountered negative reactions to her chosen profession?
  • Has the acceptance of sex in today’s society, changed the type of people she encounters as a client
  • Any favourite client transformations of hers
  • Why she has been more successful than other professionals in the sex industry
  • How does the age of the client affect how they interact and the type of services they look for
  • How does she deal with the feelings that sex and connection may raise with her customers
  • What does she consider will be the evolution of sex work – will it ever be legalised nationally or internationally and accepted throughout?
  • How does she deal with the fast-break questions?
  • What she hopes people take from the interview?
  • How you can keep in touch with her
  • And so much more

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Episode: #42 Chad Wesley Smith on how to become a Juggernaut man

Who: Today’s guest is Chad Wesley Smith who is the owner of Juggernaut Training Systems, a top 20 Ranked raw powerlifter of all-time, author, speaker & coach.

As his about page outlines: Chad is one of the most accomplished strength athletes of recent years. With a background in track and field, Smith took his 2 collegiate national championships and continued his success in powerlifting and strongman.

In powerlifting, Smith owns current PRs of 435kg/959# squat with wraps, 380kg/848# squat in sleeves, 257.5kg/567# bench press and 367.5kg/810# deadlift, as well as Top 10 totals all-time with wraps and without at 1050kg/2314# and 1010kg/2226# respectively. Smith also earned his professional status in Strongman by a landslide victory at the 2012 North American Strongman Championships.

As a coach, Smith has helped over 50 athletes earn Division 1 athletic scholarships and worked with athletes in NFL, UFC, MLB and Olympics, as well as having numerous world-class powerlifters.

Who better to discuss how to become a Juggernaut in our own lives. In this interview, we discuss masculinity, weight lifting, skill development, jiu-jitsu and how to be a man everyone would want to have a pint with and learn to become a beast in the gym with.

 

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I am particularly loving the delicious protein from the Protein Works which I use after my jiu-jitsu training to recover and come back stronger, my steaks, sausages and burgers from Muscle Foods which taste amazing on a barbecue in the sun and buying some awesome gifts at Cool Materials for some upcoming birthdays, there really is something for everyone there! For more info on these and so much more, check out www.nextlevelguy.com/affiliates.

I hope you have as much fun listening to this one as I did interviewing Chad … enjoy!

 

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What we cover

  • Who he is
  • What got him into lifting iron as a child
  • How does he define masculinity as a child and now?
  • Where does he see modern day men going wrong
  • What makes a good friendship as a man
  • Why has he been so successful compared to other lifters in his generation?
  • Where does he see guys going wrong in the gym?
  • The best methods for improving lifting technique and Chad’s method for learning new techniques
  • Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and lifting – how has he found learning BJJ compared to weight lifting
  • Any routines or processes that work well for him when lifting
  • How to start lifting when strength is not the main focus of the outcome
  • How can we learn to leave the ego at the gym and properly lift in the gym
  • How does he lift such heavy weights? What goes through his mind during his heavy lifts?
  • Where does his motivation come from? What keeps him pushing hard in the gym
  • Why does he tend to move towards single person sports compared to team sports
  • How has he turned his lifting career into a business and a brand
  • Does he have a typical day?
  • Where does his creativity come from for video production, product building etc come from?
  • How to switch the mindset from competing to coaching
  • His adoption and does he feel it affected him in any way
  • How can we raise strong – in all sense of the word – males?
  • What does he want guys listening to take from this interview?
  • What is an unusual fact about him
  • How you can keep in touch with him
  • And so much more

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Episode: #41 Rachel Hoffman on how to Unf*ck your Habitat

Who: Today’s guest is Rachel Hoffman, founder of ‘Unf*ck your Habitat’ and author of the awesome book of the same name.

I was trying to think how best to sum up Rachel’s great work when I came across her about page and I think it sums it up perfectly:

“Unf*ck Your Habitat: You’re Better than Your Mess is the housekeeping and organizational system developed for those of us who’d describe our current living situation as a “f*cking mess” that we’re desperate to fix … it is for anyone who has been left behind by traditional aspirational systems: The ones that ignore single people with full-time jobs; people without kids but living with roommates; and people with mental illnesses or physical limitations, among many others. Most organizational books are aimed at traditional homemakers, DIYers, and people who seem to have unimaginable amounts of free time. They assume we all iron our sheets, have linen napkins to match our table runners, and can keep plants alive for longer than a week. Basically, they ignore most of us living here in the real world.

Interspersed with lists and challenges, this practical, no-nonsense advice relies on a 20/10 system (20 minutes of cleaning followed by a 10-minute break; no marathon cleaning allowed) to help you develop lifelong habits. It motivates you to embrace a new lifestyle in manageable sections so you can actually start applying the tactics as you progress. This philosophy is decidedly more realistic than aspirational, but the goal is the same: not everyone will have a showcase of a home, but whatever your habitat, you deserve one that brings you happiness, not stress.”

 

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I hope you have as much fun listening to this one as I did interviewing Rachel … enjoy!

 

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What we cover

  • Who she is and why she is well known
  • What was the turning point that got her into this area
  • Where do most men go wrong with their habitats and cleaning
  • Has the gender viewpoints on cleaning and house-work changed over the years?
  • Has social media and reality TV shows changed the way we live and view our habitats?
  • The philosophy of unfucking your habitat – how should we start sorting out our habitats?
  • The 20/10 principle and how it can change your life
  • Little changes you can make right now to get the biggest return
  • What is ‘Sink Zero’ and why it is so awesome
  • How cleaning can be changed for those with limitations on what they can do
  • What is an ‘invisible corner’ and why should you worry about them
  • How should teach kids to be more involved with the cleaning and organising our habitats
  • What should be in our cleaning toolkit?
  • How do we keep on top of cleaning during stress times and holidays?
  • Where did the inspiration for the book come from and why has it been so successful?
  • How some people struggle to get past the title of the site and the motivation for it
  • How do we know if we are getting better at cleaning and organising our habitats?
  • Why you need a copy of this book right now
  • How can you keep in touch with her
  • And so much more

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Episode: #40 Eric Bandholz (@ericbandholz) on Beards, brands and building your own beardbrand

Who: Today’s guest is entrepreneur and founder of Beardbrand, Eric Bandholz. He has built a very successful business in teaching and providing men with amazing grooming products and advice on how to build your facial hair into your style.

In this interview, we discuss beards, business, grooming hacks and how to make your facial hair represent the true you.

 

Affiliate highlight: Before we get into that, a quick word about our affiliates. I’ve managed to build up some great relationships with some awesome companies. This allows me to obtain special discount codes, deals, and listener exclusive. Please go to www.nextlevelguy.com/affiliates for further info.

I am particularly loving the Gainz Box and it’s awesome fitness goodies straight to your door, the delicious protein from ‘The Protein Works’, Alpha Brain the cognitive enhancer from Onnit and some awesome steaks from MuscleFood, which are amazing with fried veg! For these and so much more, check out www.nextlevelguy.com/affiliates.

 

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What we cover

  • Who he is and why he is well known
  • What got him interested in the grooming world and why he started to grow his beard
  • How interest in facial hair has changed over the years – does having a beard = being a man?
  • What defines masculinity for him and what makes a good man?
  • The story behind Beardbrand and where the inspiration for the name came from
  • How he combined masculinity and feminity into his business
  • Tips on working with partners on a project
  • Can anyone build a business or a better question: should anyone try to build a business of their passion?
  • How he made it OK for men to start showing their beards some much needed TLC!
  • How the media affects our style and has changes in the medias portrayal of beards changed his business and clients
  • Who are ‘Beard Role Models’ and who does Eric consider as his role models
  • How do you know if your facial hair suits your face, your style and look?
  • Can we do anything to help grow more facial hair and how do you pick the facial hairstyle that suits you?
  • His tips for product creation and his experience on ‘The Shark Tank’
  • How you should start grooming your facial hair and the philosophy you should approach this with
  • The grooming products and accessories that Eric loves (and not all are his!)
  • How you should build your new facial hairstyle into the rest of your evolved life
  • How has fatherhood changed him and his style and bsiness approach
  • What the future of Beardbrand is
  • What Eric wants everyone listening to take from the interview
  • What is an unusual fact about Eric that few know
  • How can you keep in touch with Eric and the evolution of Beardbrand?
  • And so much more

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Episode: #39 Jack Donovan on redefining the way we see masculinity today

Who: Today’s guest is Jack Donovan (starttheworld), who is Mr Masculinity.

From Jack’s about page: “Jack Donovan is the author of the The Way of Men ? a straightforward, politically incorrect theory of masculinity that became an underground hit around the world … Donovan has been blogging, writing and speaking about masculinity and tribalism since for over a decade … He lives in the Pacific Northwest, where he leads a chapter of the infamous Wolves of Vinland  ? an esoteric tribe of Germanic pagans.” I don’t know if I need to say anything more as an intro!

In this interview we discuss masculinity, why it is not a dirty word and why we should undertake our own journey to become better men and more masculine men.

 

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I am particularly loving the Gainz Box and it’s awesome fitness goodies straight to your door, another is OMG Yes, which is a video series on how to truly pleasure a woman and my Barbell Apparel jeans that feel so comfy but show off your muscle gains in all the right places. For these and so much more, check out www.nextlevelguy.com/affiliates.

 

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What we cover

  • Who he is and why he is well known
  • What happended during his childhood that made him look in masculinity
  • How is masculinity being portrayed in today’s society
  • What is masculinity and who are the great role models of masculine energy?
  • Where he thinks modern day men are going wrong in society and the factors that affect thier masculinity
  • How can we recreate the old rituals that boys undertook to become men like the old civilisations do but do it in our easy lives
  • Why do you need a tribe to truly become masculine and a man and how it needs to be set up/contain to succeed.
  • Can we use sports etc to replace these missing rituals and tribes in our lives?
  • Are the characteristics of what makes a good man the same across the world?
  • What he thinks about the style of masculinity that is shipped by today’s media?
  • Can you grade masculinity? Are we masculine or not or shades of masculine more or less than the next man?
  • What challenges could you set yourself to become a more masculine man and develop yourself?
  • Why is there not a push for men to become more masculine in today’s society?Why do some men hate on those who try to improve in their lives?
  • How should today’s men adapt to the differing roles of women and equality in the modern world
  • Can you ever become too mascline? At what point does becoming more masculine cause problems?
  • How does the role of the father play in how masculine a man is and how good a man he will be? How should we raise the next generation of men to help raise good men?
  • How does he deal with those who dislike the masculinity message he is bringing out?
  • How should those listening overcome jealousy, hate etc when they try to become a more masculine man and a better man?
  • How can you tell if you are becoming a better man? What is the yard stick or criteria we can use to show improvements?
  • The message those listening should take from this interview?
  • Are there any unusual things about Jack that will blow your mind?
  • How you can keep in touch with him?
  • And so much more

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Episode: #38 BJ Gaddour on how to go from fat to fit no matter your starting point

Who: BJ Gaddour (@BJGaddour) is the host of the Weekly BJ podcast,  a former fat guy who turned cover model and fitness director for the entire Men’s Health brand. He now runs TheDailyBj.com where he delivers world-class workouts and deep dives on a wide variety of fitness topics.

In this interview, we discuss his story, how you can build fitness into your life by making your body your own barbell, the key principles and philosophies you need to follow to become fit and what BJ stands for and how it wasn’t always the most helpful nickname!

 

Affiliate highlight: Before we get into that, a quick word about our affiliates. I’ve managed to build up some great relationships with some awesome companies. This allows me to obtain special discount codes, deals, and listener exclusive. Please go to www.nextlevelguy.com/affiliates for further info.

I am particularly loving Hello Fresh, which provides all the fresh, pre-portioned ingredients you need to cook delicious weekly recipes, delivered to your door. Easy peasy, another is Barbell Apparel jeans that feel so comfy but show off your muscle gains in all the right places and Muscle Foods steaks, quality meat for an awesome price, healthy but super tasty. For these and so much more, check out www.nextlevelguy.com/affiliates.

 

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What we cover

  • Who he is
  • The turning point that started his transformation from ‘fat kid’ into a fitness idol – How he used his own physical trauma to help others
  • Who he looked up to as role models when he was a child
  • Where modern day fitness is going wrong and the common problems he sees with people trying to improve their physicality
  • The essential principles you need to follow to actually see results
  • The motivations behind the workouts he builds for his followers and why his workouts are so popular – “the brilliance is in the simplicity
  • How can someone start making fitness part of their life and how to make it a consistent habit – you can’t be consistent with something if it is not sustainable
  • What he considers is a ‘fit person’ – how can we distinguish whether someone is actually fit or not
  • How you should workout during holidays and events – ‘don’t turn off the light, just dim the switch a little
  • BJ’s awesome book ‘Your Body is Your Barbell
  • A great workout ideal that anyone listening can use today to start getting fitter
  • How we can stop comparing ourselves and focus on our own transformations instead – how to focus on the man in the mirror
  • Becoming a presenter vs being a coach
  • How he developed the Men’s Health brand to appeal to all regardless of their current fitness level and one of the biggest mistakes you can make in any industry
  • Where his creativity comes from – how does he build his brand, make products etc
  • How does he juggle with so many demands for his time and multi-task a relationship, business, training etc
  • What he would like all men listening to take from this interview
  • An unusual fact about himself that few know
  • How you can keep in touch with him
  • What BJ stands for and how he loses money on his website to make a sex joke!
  • And so much more

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