The Basics

Episode: #43 Alice Little on intimacy, connection and why our perceptions of sex work are very wrong

Who: Alice Little is the number one booking legal sex worker in the United States and works as a courtesan at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch. At only 4ft 8in, she is by far the tiniest lady at the legal brothels in Nevada. A New York native, she has worked as an EMT and horse jockey, loves electronic and tabletop entertainment, and adores intellectual stimulation. A frequent visitor to Virginia City and fascinated by its history, she loves exploring Nevada and all it has to offer. Alice has presented at over 50 Kink and BDSM events nationwide and frequently help couples with their problems in and out of the bedroom. She has recently started writing relationship advice articles for She Knows Media and was also recently featured on the Tim Ferriss Show.

In this interview, we discuss the benefits of sex work, intimacy, building connection with others and why your perceptions of sex work are very likely to be wrong. This topic may not be for everyone but Alice is very humble, honest, open and truthful about the pros and cons for sex workers and is trying to make the industry better for those who use it and work in it.

This interview may offend some but this podcast is here to delve into all areas and find out more and what makes people so successful and so appealing to others. Sex work is one of the oldest industries around and we would be doing a disservice to men by ignoring where we go wrong and by ignoring the industry and its positive benefits that can be provided to those who use it. I have never used a sex worker but this did not mean I was not interested in finding out more and learning about the other side of life as the saying goes. I hope that if anything, like Alice says you learn that sex workers are humans too and deserve the same level of respect and interest as anyone else and hopefully this interview changes your perceptions on sex work too or helps you at least consider your current views on the industry and those who work in it.

 

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I hope you have as much fun listening to this one as I did interviewing ? enjoy! This one is probably not suitable for listening to at work!

 

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What we cover

  • Who she is and why you may have heard her name
  • Her upbringing and how it shaped her outlook on life
  • Is there a common problem that is identifiable in her customers and why they come to see her?
  • What is her definition of masculinity and where do men go wrong?
  • How someone interested should try sex work for the first time
  • Why is the ‘Girlfriend Experience’ so popular among her clients?
  • What does she enjoy the most about her job? How has it changed her and her outlook on life in general?
  • Has she encountered negative reactions to her chosen profession?
  • Has the acceptance of sex in today’s society, changed the type of people she encounters as a client
  • Any favourite client transformations of hers
  • Why she has been more successful than other professionals in the sex industry
  • How does the age of the client affect how they interact and the type of services they look for
  • How does she deal with the feelings that sex and connection may raise with her customers
  • What does she consider will be the evolution of sex work – will it ever be legalised nationally or internationally and accepted throughout?
  • How does she deal with the fast-break questions?
  • What she hopes people take from the interview?
  • How you can keep in touch with her
  • And so much more

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The Basics

 

Episode: 007

Who: Gigi Engle. She is a writer, speaker, and feminist activist. She is currently the sex and dating writer for Thrillist Media Group., who’s articles have been shared over 20 million times, with her top posts reaching over 1 million shares. She is hilarious, informative and gives you amazing tips on how to be a better man and lover. Gigi has written for a variety of publications including Men’s Health, The Nonsense Society, Today and The Good Men Project.

 

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What we cover:

  • What’s your story?
  • How did you get into helping men with their dating life?
  • What is the thing that makes you happiest about writing about dating and relationships
  • Common problems she sees
  • Do you work with people on their sex live? Can you discuss your Best client transformation? Or the feedback that made it all worthwhile for you.
  • What would you consider your top tips for how men can be better in bed and better lovers for themselves and their partners?
  • Why are men afraid of sex toys and how can men become more comfortable with them and how to start?
  • What are some of your articles that you are most proud of?
  • What do you consider the biggest issue facing modern men today, why do you think so may struggle with women? Is it alcohol, phone addiction, drugs, sugar, diet etc?
  • Why do people have issues regarding sex, and feel embarrassed or shame on discussing sex? How can you help fix your or your partner’s feelings like that?
  • How should you deal with jealousy of a partner’s previous sex life, partners etc – how can someone move on from the past to make a better future?
  • Who do you see as great examples for men to use as role models and to act more like in their lives to be better with women?
  • What types would you give someone looking to venture into online dating?
  • How can someone best utilise dating apps like Tinder, Bumble etc
  • Whats doing your podcast taught you? How do you find doing it with your boyfriend and how has it affected your relationship can how you communicate?
  • How can someone who has had a bad breakup move on from it, what advice would you give men to move on after losing a love and starting afresh, how can they reduce the chances of the same problems arising again?
  • What sort of things do guys do that women consider needy, red flags or enough to end your contact or relationship, especially things that we are maybe not aware of that men can do?
  • How can men in long term relationships keep the spark alve with their partners? How can they add the spice back into their sex live etc?
  • So where do guys go wrong with foreplay mainly?
  • How do your family react to the area of interest you write about?
  • What is the best sex myth you can’t believe still exists to this day?
  • What do you think is the weirdest or most interesting sex fact you’ve discovered over the years?
  • How does working out help you become better with women? What sort of activities should people do to better thier bodies and their sex lives in your opinion? Basically, how can they become more comfortable in their own skin?
  • For those who struggle with their or their partner’s lower sex drive, how can that be remedied?
  • Fast question break
  • If you could speak to all mankind at once, what would you say?
  • Where would you like to see yourself in five years?
  • How can someone keep in touch, what is your social media etc (your instagram is brilliant)?

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