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You weren’t broken—you were doing your best with the tools you had at the time. Shame won’t heal you. Understanding will.” Dr. Adi Jaffe

It’s time to Rewire Your Brain, Heal Your Shame, learn Dr. Jaffe’s Tools for Lasting Transformation.

🎙️ Meet Dr. Adi Jaffe — former addict turned addiction recovery trailblazer, bestselling author of The Abstinence Myth and Unhooked, founder of Ignited Recovery, and creator of powerful tools like SPARROW and E.A.T. His mission? To help you ditch shame, understand your behavior, and transform your life—one breakthrough at a time.

Once a meth addict and drug dealer facing a 10-year prison sentence, Dr. Adi Jaffe turned his life around after hitting rock bottom. Following multiple failed rehab attempts, he committed to deep personal transformation—eventually earning a Ph.D. in psychology from UCLA. Today, he’s a groundbreaking voice in addiction recovery, the author of The Abstinence Myth and Unhooked, and the founder of Ignited Recovery. Through his unique SPARROW and E.A.T. methods, Adi helps people overcome shame, understand their behavior, and reclaim their lives—without judgment and without needing to be “perfect.”

🔥 What if your addiction—or your bad habit—was never the real problem?

In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Adi Jaffe (@dradijaffe) breaks down why we repeat the same patterns, how shame keeps us stuck, and how to actually change your behavior without hating yourself.

We talk SPARROW 🧠, emotional hooks 🎣, radical acceptance 💬, and why relapse is not failure.

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📘 Unhooked by Dr. Adi Jaffe
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🌐 Ignited Recovery – Dr. Jaffe’s revolutionary recovery programs
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📖 Guest Story: From Meth to Meaning

🚓 Arrested. Addicted. Alone.
Adi Jaffe’s life hit rock bottom when a SWAT team stormed his apartment, ending his days as a drug dealer addicted to meth and stuck in a cycle of shame and self-destruction.

🔄 The Wake-Up Call
After failed rehab attempts and getting kicked out of his first program, Adi realized that no one was coming to save him—and that real change had to start from within. It was in that moment that true accountability began to take root.

🧠 From Breakdown to Breakthrough
By questioning the root causes of his addiction, he uncovered the emotional pain, childhood trauma, and identity issues that were fueling his behavior. His transformation wasn’t about quitting drugs—it was about rewiring his entire relationship to self, shame, and emotion.

📚 Becoming the Guide He Once Needed
Now a Ph.D., author, and founder of Ignited Recovery, Adi helps others untangle their own behavioral knots. Through his SPARROW and E.A.T. models, he’s guided thousands of people toward healing—not through shame, but through compassion, understanding, and self-awareness.

💡 From Addict to Advocate
Adi’s story is living proof that you’re never too far gone—and that true healing starts when we stop asking “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking “What happened to me?”

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  • 🧠 What if your addiction wasn’t the problem—but the solution your brain created to survive?
    In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Adi Jaffe unpacks why we numb, escape, and repeat patterns we hate—and how we can finally break free.

  • 😳 Addiction isn’t rare—and recovery doesn’t always mean abstinence.
    Dr. Adi Jaffe reveals why the current system fails over 90% of people—and what actually works when it comes to change.

  • 💔 Why does a breakup from 20 years ago still sting like it happened yesterday?
    Dr. Jaffe explains how “emotional hooks” keep us trapped in old pain—and how to untangle them for good.

  • 🧩 Every behavior tells a story. The question is—are you listening?
    Discover how the SPARROW method reveals hidden patterns behind self-sabotage, shame, and compulsive habits.

  • 🔥 You were doing your best—even at your worst.
    Dr. Adi Jaffe shares why shame keeps us stuck, and how real transformation starts with radical self-compassion.

Key Takeaways from the Interview:

🧭 Summary of Key Areas Covered

🔄 Adi’s Personal Journey
From drug addiction and prison to becoming a leading voice in behavioral change and addiction recovery.

🚫 Debunking the Abstinence Myth
Why complete abstinence isn’t the only path to recovery—and why focusing solely on quitting can be harmful.

🧠 Understanding SPARROW
Learn how Stimulus, Perception, Activation, Response, and Outcome help map out the root of destructive behaviors.

🔍 Exploring E.A.T.
Explore, Accept, Transform — a three-step method to break out of shame loops and create lasting change.

🎣 Emotional Hooks & Triggers
How childhood trauma and unresolved emotions form subconscious “hooks” that drive our behavior today.

👁️ The Power of Perception
Two people can experience the same event and respond completely differently—why your past rewires your present.

🫂 Healing Through Acceptance
Why true change begins when we stop punishing ourselves and start accepting we were doing our best at the time.

🤝 Community & Connection
The life-changing impact of non-judgmental support systems and safe spaces for growth.

📉 Redefining Relapse
Failure is part of the process—how to use setbacks as feedback instead of proof you’re broken.

🌍 Beyond Addiction
How these tools apply to workaholism, screen addiction, emotional outbursts, binge eating, and more.

 

🔑 Key Takeaways

🧠 Addiction is a Response, Not a Disease
You’re not broken. Your behavior is often your brain’s attempt to manage pain, anxiety, or disconnection.

🧩 SPARROW Reveals the Pattern
Every behavior follows a chain:
Stimulus → Perception → Activation → Response → Outcome
Mastering this flow helps you pause, understand, and redirect.

👓 Perception Shapes Reality
Two people can experience the same moment and feel totally different. It’s not the world—it’s your lens.

🎣 “Emotional Hooks” Keep You Stuck
Triggers like places, songs, or smells activate past emotional pain. Recognizing these hooks is the first step to healing.

🧘 E.A.T. for Change
Explore your patterns
Accept your past without judgment
Transform your response
This trio helps you grow instead of spiral.

🥇 Progress > Perfection
Cutting back is still progress. Don’t let all-or-nothing thinking sabotage your wins.

🌱 You Were Doing Your Best
Even in your worst moments, you were trying to meet a need. Shame fuels the problem—self-compassion fuels the solution.

👥 Community Changes Everything
Surround yourself with people who offer connection, not correction. Healing is a team sport.

🚧 Relapse Isn’t Failure
It’s feedback. Use it to refine your approach, not punish yourself.

💡 This Isn’t Just About Addiction
These tools work for emotional eating, porn, social media, overworking, and any pattern you want to change.

🎯 Listener Challenges

🧠 1. Map Your SPARROW
Think of a recent behavior you regret (e.g. snapping at someone, overeating, binge-watching).
Break it down:

  • Stimulus – What triggered it?

  • Perception – How did you interpret it?

  • Activation – What feelings or body sensations came up?

  • Response – What did you do?

  • Outcome – What happened as a result?
    Write it out. The pattern will surprise you.

🪞 2. Accept a Past Version of You
Pick one mistake you still carry shame over. Say to yourself:
“I was doing my best with the tools I had at the time.”
Notice how this shifts the weight.

📓 3. Journal One Hook
What memory, person, or place still emotionally “hooks” you?
Describe the moment. Then ask:

  • What does this remind me of?

  • What did I need back then that I didn’t get?
    Let the answers guide your healing.

👥 4. Seek Support, Not Silence
Join a group, share in a community, or speak to someone you trust.
Connection kills shame.

🎉 5. Celebrate Small Wins
Did you reduce a harmful behavior, even slightly? Pause and celebrate.
Progress, not perfection, is the goal. Track the change, not just the “clean streak.”

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🧠 Key Lesson

Your behaviors aren’t flaws—they’re signals.
Whether it’s drinking, doom-scrolling, porn, or perfectionism, these habits aren’t just “bad choices.” They’re your brain’s way of coping with pain, disconnection, and unmet needs.

Through Dr. Adi Jaffe’s SPARROW and E.A.T. frameworks, we learn that lasting change doesn’t come from punishment—it comes from understanding. When you shine a light on your emotional hooks and patterns, you stop fighting yourself and start healing yourself.


🚀 Call to Action

This week, choose one recurring behavior you want to change.
👉 Break it down using SPARROW.
👉 Practice self-compassion, not self-criticism.
👉 Share your insight with a trusted friend or journal it.

💬 Remember: you were doing your best. Now, let’s help you do even better.

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About the Author
I’m a podcaster who interviews great examples of people to discuss and highlight the methods, hacks, tips and procedures you can use in your own life to help you develop and better your life. I would definitely not consider myself an expert, so to improve, I ask them and action it in my own life! My personal journey has been marked by awkwardness and awesomeness, OCD and ‘OMG’. I have suffered with depression, shyness, unhappiness and lack of focus and motivation so I know what’s it like to feel lost and hopeless. Back then, I wished I had a podcast to listen to and find actual fixes and concrete action steps and not just unobtainable suggestions and promotion of their products but couldn’t find it … so I made my own!

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