Cause and solution for erectile dysfunction in young men

Hi, today we have an awesome guest post from an up and coming writer by the name of Sebastian, who writes about men, women and the chaos that most men call dating life! Today’s topic is on a very sensitive subject for all men, of any age.

Over to Sebastian ….


In case you are over 80 and you have problems with your sexual performance, which is totally normal at a certain age, you can use some magical blue pills and your dick suddenly feels 50 years younger. In case you are under 30 and you already have erectile dysfunction, which is anything else than natural, you definitely have a problem.

I know from my own experience how frightening and degrading it can be to have a naked girl in your bed and to not be able to get it up. Believe me, I have been there and I promised myself to never go back to this state.

If you have ever had the same experience you know how it feels but there is definitely one good thing I can tell you about this problem: Most of the time it is actually pretty easy to solve this problem and to bring back your rock-hard erection. In 99% of the cases it only requires one simple change.

If you are one of those countless young men who suffer from erectile dysfunction, you don’t have to look for a good psychotherapist and you don’t have to take medicine that brings energy back to your dick by ducking energy out of your body.

All you have to do is to ask yourself a few simple questions: “Do I masturbate to porn? How often do I masturbate to porn? To which kind of porn movies am I masturbating?”

In case you answer this question with “of course I masturbate to porn. I watch porn every time I masturbate. I am really into the hardcore stuff”, you already spotted the reason for your erectile dysfunction. Now let’s talk about why this answer is a death sentence for your sex life and why porn is killing your dick.


Your Dick gets Desensitised

By watching pornographic movies your dick gets desensitised by all the stimuli that are showering down on you. This is a slow process and in the early phase of your porn consumption you might not even realize this but in the long run this can lead to a flabby dick while looking at a real naked woman.

You don’t have to avoid every naked picture or sex scene in mainstream movies now. That’s not the problem. The only thing you have to blame for this is hardcore porn and the amount you consume of this shit.

Try to remember the time when you watched your first porn movies. I bet your dick got already hard by looking at a woman who got undressed and you were about to come as soon as the firefighter fucked the teenage girl he had to save.

What do you need now to get turned on? A gangbang, deep throat, double penetration or even a rape movie? The more porn you watch, the more you get used to your current level of stimulation and the more extreme your taste gets. You quickly come to a point where a naked woman on a screen isn’t enough anymore to turn you on. The same is true for a real woman right next to you.

Don’t worry, this won’t happen when you look at a picture of a naked woman once in a while, but in case you need crazy stuff that you normally don’t do with a woman in bed in order to get an erection, you should consider a porn rehab.




This is Sex!

Not only will your dick get desensitised by watching too many women who are getting fucked in every whole on a screen, but also your sexual preferences and your perception of what sex is, will change through porn.

A guy who maybe saw some softcore movies once or twice still knows that kissing a girl passionately, undressing her slowly to turn her on and kissing her whole body are all important parts of the sexual foreplay. Guys who are not under the constant influence of hardcore pornography are able to trust their instincts and to know that real sex is about passion, connection and responding to a woman’s needs.

What is real sex for a guy who spends the majority of his leisure time in front of his computer while masturbating to gangbang, bondage and deep throat porn movies? He considers sex as exactly the things he watches day in, day out. You are more interested in some fetish porn movies than in actually learning how to seduce a woman and to have sex with a real girl.

Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with having some sexual fetishes, such as bondage or to participate in a gangbang but please  think twice whether or not those fantasies are your own ones or just an illusion that was created by the porn industry.

Think about what might happen when you only regard those fetishes as real sex. Normal sex between you and a girl that doesn’t involve crazy sexual practices will bore you to death and your brain might not even see them as real sex because you are so brainwashed from the porn industry. As a result of that, your brain will tell your dick that a naked girl in front of you who is not bounded has nothing to do with real sex. That’s why you won’t get an erection with a real woman.



Now I could write a long and detailed description to solve the problem of erectile dysfunction in young men in a long and intensive therapeutic process but to be honest it is really simple:

Stop watching porn!

I know it is not easy and I also have to warn you that it will probably take a few weeks to fully recover. But isn’t the abandonment of some stupid porn movies worth a life without erectile dysfunction and full of unforgettable sexual experiences?




My name is Sebastian and I am the owner of My vision is to help men to live a life true to themselves and a life in which they can be authentic, honest and confident in the presence of women. I write articles about foreign dating and seduction in different cultures. My goal is to inspire men all over the world to embrace the art of seduction and to live a life full of unforgettable sexual experiences and adventurous travel.

Guest Post: Why Some Men Lose The Dating Game

Hi, today we have an awesome guest post from an up and coming writer by the name of Sebastian, who writes about men, women and the chaos that most men call dating life!

Over to Sebastian ….



My name is Sebastian and I am the owner of My vision is to help men to live a life true to themselves and a life in which they can be authentic, honest and confident in the presence of women. I write articles about foreign dating and seduction in different cultures. My goal is to inspire men all over the world to embrace the art of seduction and to live a life full of unforgettable sexual experiences and adventurous travel.

I recently thought about the fact that not women, but men are the real losers of the dating game. I really racked my brain about how to explain to you in the right way, why I men are eventually the losers when it comes to dating; at least the majority of men.

A couple of weeks ago I read an interesting article about why women lose the dating game, in which the author, who is a woman, explains that women lose their market value when they pass the age of 30 and at the same time the market value of men increases, as soon as they pass the age of 30. She also claims that many women over 30 can’t find a decent man and end up being lonely and miserable, because of a combination of unrealistic standards, focus on their career and the false believe of getting every man they want, even in a high age.

It is simply a fact that men become more attractive as older as they get and women less attractive as older as they get.  If this is true, you might expect me to congratulate all men who are now winning the dating game and enjoy their life with an abundance of seduction, sex and beautiful women.

If that is the case, why do I come up with the idea that not women, but men are the real losers in the dating game?

Because men all over the world are too brainwashed to realize that they can easily win the dating game. That’s why they are the real losers of this game.

Many men believe that they can’t get younger women and that they are creeps or perverts, in case they dare to approach women who are younger than they are because movies, the media and the society told them that this is wrong.

What if I tell you that I know so many guys who never had it easier in their life to seduce and have sex with women in their early twenties or even younger as soon as they turned thirty? Think about how many women confess that they are attracted to older men and think about all the opportunities you might have missed because of some wrong believes.

In case you don’t make use of this fact, you lose the dating game.

Many men marry women who are about the same age as they are, as soon as they are 30. Most of the time the woman harasses the poor guy to marry her and start a family because she is apparently so in love with him.

What if I tell you that a woman knows exactly what she is worth in the dating market and also knows that your sexual value increases and her sexual value decreases while getting older? Come to think about it, if it is really love that makes her want to marry you at this particularly stage of her life or if it might be her need for security to not end up lonely and her will to not let you discover your full potential with women, which would maybe lead you to leave her…just a thought.

In case you don’t make use of this fact, you lose the dating game.

Don’t get me wrong. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being in a relationship with a woman who has the same age as you are or a woman who is even older than you. There is also nothing wrong with getting married to a woman you truly love and who loves you. There is really nothing wrong with all of that, at least if you don’t choose this path because of a misconception of the dating game.

The divorce rates get higher and higher and many men are desperate to find the love of their life through online dating or they regard going to prostitutes as the only chance of experiencing sex. Some men over a certain age are afraid that they never find a woman again after a break-up or divorce. Most relationships are unhappy and most marriages are unhappy too.

Your life doesn’t have to be like that. You can choose a different path. You can live a fulfilling dating life, experience unforgettable seduction stories, enjoy sex with amazingly beautiful women and travel the world in search of crazy sexual adventures with foreign beauties.

You don’t have to lose the dating game, unless you don’t realize that you have the potential to win it.



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Become the Real You with Mark Manson


Who: Mark Manson

Where is he normally:

Why should I care what he has to say: Mark’s blog is simply superb. I have become a big fan of it since discovering it lately. Mark takes subjects that we all struggle with and takes the issue down to the core and gives deep, meaningful and intense analysis of each subject, where men go wrong and how we can fix the problem. I enjoy surfing the net but Mark’s site is one of the few that I can become engrossed in for long periods of time. Mark talks from experience and is always willing to help. In short, I feel a better person from reading Mark’s blog – I don’t think I can give him a better compliment than that!



NLG: For those of us who don’t know you, can you please tell us a little about yourself and your journey in life from normal dude to rocking blogger?

MM: My name is Mark Manson. I’m from Boston, USA. I’m a writer, entrepreneur, world traveler and former dating coach. Although the external variables of my life have shifted and improved dramatically, I view my personal journey as an internal one – overcoming my fears, my emotional baggage, creating new and amazing relationships and creating something valuable and unique to give the world. The successes with business, women, etc., are a by-product of this process.

I still have a long way to go.


NLG: I think that’s why I like your blog so much – it seems that we are on similar journeys … but you’re having more luck so far!

Your posts are amazingly insightful, in depth and helpful. Where do your views come from?

MM: I read a lot growing up. I was a smart kid in a pretty cold and distant family, so I was always sticking my nose in books. I started reading a lot about philosophy as a teenager in high school, then later spirituality, psychology and literature. I think the “depth” people see in my posts is just a matter of me being more honest with myself than most. Writing is creating an experience in the mind of others and I feel like if I can be honest with myself to a certain depth, then I can vicariously force the reader to reach that same depth in themselves.


NLG: well it is definitely working. I feel that your posts cut to the core of the problem and really make the reader address the true nature of his problems.

Your site is aimed to helping the modern day man – what do you think it is to be a man nowadays?

MM: It’s a lot murkier than it used to be, that’s for sure. I think the information revolution and sexual revolution have forced men into a situation where they must develop new aspects of their identities. In the past, getting a good job and taking charge was sufficient. Now, it’s not. Women have empowered themselves and the new service and information economy has removed a lot of men’s competitive advantages in society. As a result, to keep up and remain relevant I think men must evolve and get in touch with aspects of their identities that used to be off-limits – empathy, communication, nurturing, etc. The trick is to pull this off without sacrificing the traditional masculine virtues – ambition, assertiveness, drive – to become more integrated, whole, individuals.

Put simply, man are caught in a spot where they need to develop their emotional lives without turning into a pussy. It’s a tricky rope to balance on.


NLG: What a great answer! So what do you think defines being a man and what should they aspire to be like? What are the virtues that an ideal man should adopt?

MM: I think the virtues that define men these days aren’t so different from the virtues that define women: self-respect, strong purpose, empathy, honesty. I think the real major differences between men and women in a post-feminist world remain sexual differences. Women and men express and prefer different sexual expressions (on average), but the virtues of each gender have very much converged because of how connected and efficient society has become.


NLG: If you were to talk to all of mankind at once, what would you say?

MM: You don’t have to prove anything.




NLG: I have learnt so much about myself and view the relationship between men and women differently since I started reading your blog. What do you consider your three best videos/articles and why do you feel they are the best?

MM: I’d choose

A New Masculinity ( – Relates my experiences traveling around the world and meeting women of different cultures and how this affected my perception of both my own masculinity and masculinity in general.

My Life as a Pick Up Artist ( – Traces my sexual empowerment and experiences as an instructor in the pick up artist industry. Serves both as a cautionary tale and an educational narrative.

Kill Your Day Job and Travel the World ( – An article about the emotional process of leaving the typical 9-5 work world behind and setting off on your own. Also provides some tips on how to do it.

These aren’t my personal favorite articles but have been some of my most popular articles and generated the most inspiration/reaction out of readers.


NLG: Some great content and I loved the ‘New Masculine’ article.You have been very successful in business and relationships. Can you tell me any tips for life or business that you have found that shouldn’t work but do?

MM: Invest in yourself. Products, businesses, jobs, careers, they come and go, but your education and mind are always with you. Most people try to collect golden eggs. Few people bother to learn how to become the goose that lays them.


NLG: How has travelling and meeting men and women all over the world changed you and how you see the world?

MM: It’s affected me in more ways then I could possibly write here. But overall it’s shown me that at the end of the day, people are the same. We all want the same things and have the same needs, we just go about them in different ways and were born into different cultures and circumstances. People are also, on the whole, good.


NLG: A great point to make, we are the same, regardless of race, religion or sexual orientation. What advice would you give to anyone who wanted to become more cultured and worldly?

MM: No secret here: travel. Skip the resorts, five-star hotels and hostels. Find an apartment and try to enmesh yourself into the local life as quickly as you can. Purposely go where the other tourists don’t. See how others live. Volunteer. Teach English. Live like them for a while. Understanding of books, movies or politics is nice, but doesn’t get you the real thing.


NLG: You’ve lived some life! What advice would you give to a guy who reads your site and wants to become better, to live with more adventure, to meet more girls and live the life they want to?

MM: If you want to do something new or exciting, and it scares the shit out of you, it probably means you should do it.


NLG: Talking of being scared, I love your take on controlling your emotions. Can you explain it to my readers, why it’s important and more importantly, how they can go about doing it?

MM: Most people assume they’re rational, but the truth is that the majority of thoughts that bubble up in our minds are merely rationalizations and explanations for emotional decisions we’ve already made and felt. Psychologists have shown this time and time again. Your conscious mind and reasoning follow whatever your emotions and sub-conscious have already decided. So getting in touch with that sub-conscious and those emotional impulses, recognizing them and honing them to help you is possibly the most powerful tool you can ever develop.

As far as HOW to manage those emotions, I recently did a podcast about it:


NLG: I wish I’d known that a few years back – would have saved me a lot of hassle during a breakup! (Ed: The podcasts also rock!). What three things do most men do that leads them to failing?

MM: I’d say

  1. Making assumptions about something they’ve never tried or experienced.
  2. Expecting failure before they even try (self-fulfilling prophecy).
  3. The only real failure is not trying, so being apathetic or too scared to even bother trying.


NLG: I agree about the not trying part – we all do more than we believe ourselves capable of.

I think we all, myself included, struggle with letting go of past loves and bad behaviour. What advice would you give to someone who wanted to let go their pain/feelings etc and start again?

MM: Invest in themselves. We never completely get over our old loves, but we can move on from them, and the way we do that is by creating better versions of ourselves than the one who dated them. As long as we’re the same person who dated them with the same emotional needs, we’re going to feel the same way.



NLG: Some great advice. On the subject of people staying the same – Why do you think that people are happy with lives of mediocrity? Why are they happy to stay in the shadows when a life of success offers so much more?

MM: Because success is painful. Mediocrity is safe and comfortable. Success requires fucking up repeatedly, making a fool of yourself, being ridiculed, tons of anxiety and stress, and inevitably brings a lot more responsibility than mediocrity. It’s harder. That’s why most people don’t do it.


NLG: As I am finding out trying to build up my website – success has a lot of false starts and pain!

I love the passion and personality that’s in your writing on your blog. What advice would you give to anyone who wants to start or upgrade their website and add their personality (even if nerdy like me) to their website or anything else?

MM: I would just be as honest as possible in portraying yourself. It takes a long time to find your voice and your message. You have to try over and over again. My blog and writing has gotten pretty popular the past year, but I blogged in relative anonymity for years before that.

You have to love it and love what you’re writing about it. And if you don’t, then find a way to love it. If you love getting nerdy, then nerd the fuck out. If you want to write long-winded 5,000 word pseudo-philosophical pieces on all of the places you’ve stuck your penis (like me), then do it. Do what you’re passionate about. Try to find something unique and honest to say and the audience will eventually show up.


NLG: I think we, as men, need to stop feeling ashamed of who we are what we are interested in. We need to be ourselves and act to our true intentions and be congruent with who we are at the core – great advice Mark!

Finally, more to help my own writing, where do you find your inspiration for your blog posts?

MM: My life. My blog is my therapy. It’s my journal. It’s my creative outlet. It’s my dialog with the world. It’s my teacher. A million things inspire me to write, it’s a matter of opening myself up to them. Again, it comes back to that honest expression.


NLG: Thanks for taking the time to speak to me Mark – I thoroughly appreciate your time.



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How to be the Alpha Male in a Group of Guys – Lord Flashheart (Blackadder)


What is it?

Character: Lord Flashheart
From: Blackadder
Type: Comedy Stars
What is this clip about: Blackadder and George have decided to join the ’20 Minuters’ flying squad and are going to their first training lession … being led by Lord Flashheart!

Why should I watch it?

  • Lord Flashheart just doesn’t care. He struts in and says and he says and does as he wants. Notice how he swaggers in, with complete confidence (the character is meant to be sex-mad so he leads by the groin).
  • He completely controls the group of men, who all hang on his words (obviously except for Blackadder who hates him!). He assumes that they all love him and want to follow him. He tools people who are not completely down with his beliefs. He trusts in himself that the guys will follow him.
  • He builds emotional state in the group by making crude jokes, talking loudly and excitedly and gets them to join in by repeating catch-phrases  (a lot of dating guys will get you to do this sort of thing at the start of a night to build your state and loose your inhibitions). He becomes the ‘cool’ guy of the group and people gravitate towards the cool person in the group.
  • He has complete control. He takes up the room, he is loud, projecting his voice far, locks eye contact with anyone who speaks to him and just tells them, not asks, tells them what to do. It’s an over-dramatic display but you get the gist of it!


How can I do that?

  • Stop trying to befriend everyone. Stop caring and trying to please everyone – it’s not possible. Set your beliefs and stick to them. You can’t appease everyone but you will be happier inside by being true to your core values as a person.
  • People like to be led. Try talking a bit louder than other males. Lock in eye contact with people you speak to. Build an emotional state in them. Do this by talking excitedly about what you enjoy, bring others into the conversation, look to give value to others rather than leech value from others.
  • Some people will try and challenge you for leadership. Learn to deal with confrontation. Talk loudly when needed. Speak your mind and don’t try to suck up but ensure you speak as you believe. Some people are general dicks and you should just ignore them as it isn’t worth your time.
  • Leadership is about understanding what you followers need and supplying it to them but also about telling them how to do it. Practise giving people small orders and expand from there. People follow people who are good at helping them. Build your reputation as the go to guy for help by continually learning and developing yourself.
  • Try volunteering with coaching kids or something similar. Maybe look at doing some supervisor work in your job. Start small but learn to lead from the front. Any experience in leading others (no matter their age) is a major step in the right direction.


How was it? Did it blow your mind or suck ass? Let me know in the comments below and then watch another!